I think my exposure to 'too many Walt Disney movies' when I was young is the core of this. And yes, I believe you are bang on. This social construct of how families and friends 'should be' vs the nature of humans can be a real mind f*ck. I had an idea of how a friend should be. How a mother should be. How an everything should be.a person who is indifferent to you doesn't love you and we should probably not waste our time and effort loving them.
Now this is my go to model. If they can't show respect even when they are trying their damndest to get something out of me - that's probably a sign. lol. Nope. Definitely a sign.
I had to get out of my own denial to get to my own construct. I need to learn how to raise the bar and expect and judge others to see how that was going to work for me. Something my strict Catholic upbringing warned was NOT a good way for me to get through the pearly gates.
Over it. Excellent questions Scout. Thank you. I hope you are doing well. Much appreciation for all of the support you have provided to me along the way. I think of you often.