Need Some Dating Advice....

[nic]

Hi Pand,

As a serial dater (ha ha), I have a lot of advice...

1. Smile
A smile sends good vibes, and it is proven that when people smile, they attract positive attention.
2. Go somewhere familiar
If your date is at a place you know, you will be more comfortable. If you haven't ever been there before, (if it's not too far) try taking a dry run to help ease your nerves.
3. Medicate if you need to
If you take something like Ativan, then take it throughout the day of the date so you will be relaxed. (Just remember not to drink if it is still in your system.)
4. Make eye contact
I believe you can learn a lot about someone by just looking at them while they speak.
5. Don't set your expectations too high
Remember that it is a date, and just that. He may not be the one for you, so just keep the conversation light, and if it goes somewhere, then great. If not, perhaps he could be a friend. Use this date as practice for future dates!
6. Have fun
Enjoy a day/night out! Leave your worries at home for the night.

Now, all this being said, remember that I've had (probably) hundreds of dates and only a handful of decent relationships! Perhaps you shouldn't take my advice...

Luv,
Nic :-)

 

[pandora]

Well I went and yes I took an ativan and that helped and I did not shake at all...now that is progress. We stayed about an hour an a half...good, simple small talk. He is tall 6ft 4 and 240lbs...very sexy! He messaged me by the time I got home there was a message complimenting me on my looks,,my beautiful eyes and nice lips...ha ha He also has beautiful green eyes, very gentle so far!!!! He asked me if I would wear my hair down next time..ha ha..So...I guess he would like to see me again at least that is how I took that comment. One day at a time but he messaged me about 15 minutes after I left. I think he is interested and I AM attracted to him.....surprise, surprise. I will take it slow this time and think I would like for him to chase me!!!!!! ha ha I am proud of myself for taking this first step...now to get to know one another better! He reminds me physically of my second husband in edmonton...that is a GOOD thing!

 

[patrick]

Ain't it grand! I love new beginnings. So glad it went well for you, and that the whole thing works out to be a great time. Ah, passion.

 

[pandora]

I am excited! I just have to keep things in perspective and keep things low key until I share some of the PTSD stuff and I do not think that will come up if and when there is intimacy but I am NOT going to jump into anything. When I am a bit more comfortable...I will share a bit, not everything this time as I want this to be my past. I want to move forward and leave the past in the past....much easier said than done but I have healed alot in the last year. This is a HUGE step...I am proud I had the courage to go. Again...taking it one day at a time. He seems nice so far...kind of like a gentle giant.6ft 4 and he has a nice calm manner about him (so far)...seems down to earth and very complimentary...calls me cutie and sexy...ha ha. He said he would call tonight so I will wait and see.

 

[Noone.]

Excellent, you did great, I can only imagine how nervous you must have been, be proud of yourself pandora. Ken.

 

[Tinyflame]

Good for you pandora- you most certainly deserve it!
I'm proud of you! :occasion:

(..and a cutie, too :wink: )

-Have lots of fun next time, too :smile:

 

[nic]

Congrats, Pand! I'm glad everything went well. Just remember to take things SLOOOOOOWLY.

 

[pandora]

I am going to take things very, very slowly and he respects that, thank goodness. Seems like a nice person so far.

 

[kers]

I'm glad it went well, Pandora!

 

[morgan]

You are definitely ahead of me in that department. I don't know if I'll ever date again. I kinda like being single and not being some bitches victim.

I'm very glad to hear that he is nice. Good luck. I hope it continues to go well for you.

Best wishes to ya, Morgan

 

[Vickym]

Pandora congrats on your date. Its a big step. My advise is this from my own experience with my boyfriend. When my boyfriend knew he was interested in me and a serious relationship he gave me information on ptsd. He asked me to read it and said it was because he needed to know if I could handle a person with the symptoms of ptsd. Looking back it was a smart thing for the both of us. Not only did he spare himself hurt but me also. Granted reading about ptsd and living with someone with ptsd are two different things. I am gratefull that he was up front and honest with me instead pretending to someone else. Best of luck to you!

 

[pandora]

Thank you everyone...and vickym...thanx too. That sounds like a great idea, i think I will wait a bit though.......just to see if this is going anywhere, I opened up too soon in my last relationship and it kind of blew up in my face. I am going very slowly this time.