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[KJ.]

My name is KJ, im 20yrs and I have suffered from PTSD since I was 11. I also suffere from Major Depressive Disorder, Anorexia and mild Social Anxiety Disorder. I am also a Self Harmer. The reason for my PTSD is that I was raped by my older brother when I was 8yrs. I told my parents when I was 13yrs but they did not believe me and I am now living with my parents again and they have forgotten that I ever told them. I am struggling with nightmares and flashbacks and because my parents have forgotten I still have to be around my brother sometimes. The fact that my parents dont remember me ever telling them, or they are in total denial about it that they just dont acknowledge it causes a lot of arguments as my parents dont understand why I hate my brother so much.

 

[Iron_Angel]

Oh KJ, my heart goes out to you. It is awful not to be believed. That is secondary wounding, in PTSD terms. You have every right to refuse to be in your brother's presence. You are an adult, and if they don't want to believe you, then all you have to say is "I have my reasons."

Sometimes people don't "want" to know things because they will then be obliged to deal with it. That denial is very hard for us to take when it comes from people who are supposed to be looking out for us.

You will find many people here who understand what you're going through. Are you getting any support or therapy from anyone at all? Sending you hugs...

 

[booboomatrix]

Not being believed is traumatic. Your parents clearly cannot handle the information. I wish I had advice for you, but you are in a tough spot. Relaxation and meditation technique and possibly clinic help in your local area. I'm really really sorry that you have not heard what you need to hear from mom and dad.

 

[blueangel371115]

Welcome,
I know how it feels. my parents have a difficult time believing me too. They think I'm attention seeking. Hang in there. If you need to chat, I'm here.

 

[Marie E.]

Welcome to the Forum KJ!

 

[BloomInWinter]

(((((KJ)))))

Welcome to the forum.

Are you able to set physical boundaries with your parents? Like, being told ahead of time when he will be somewhere? Being given time to go somewhere else? Having a locked door?

You don't have to be nice about your mental or physical safety.

Take care of YOU. :>

 

[Froggie]

{{{KJ}}}, that is very difficult to deal with, being raped by your brother and parents not taking into consideration what you have told them. We may not be your parents, but you will have many ears, support and many posts with valuable information that will help give some strenght and direction towards some empowerment that you so deserve.

Welcome to the forum, very good decision

 

[BloomInWinter]

KJ,

You have friends, allies, and witnesses now. You are NOT ALONE ANYMORE.