Neighbour has set up a camera

[ladee]

The first thing that came to mind, was putting a camera filming his car. Letting him know as he was watching me, I was watching him... whether it's a real camera or not, or even hooked up.... the law is not likely to do anything as you well know.... and other than knowing he is watching, he is a pedophile and you are too old for him.... but being watched is unnerving.... what a messed up world that they have more rights than they do.... sorry hon... I would get a huge umbrella and put it in front of me or behind me, going in and out..... one that shoots out paint balls.... if it detects a camera..... ok, not what you want to hear, let us know if something is done.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Tornadic Thoughts I used to live in a building with 7 other apartments and found out after yrs that the guy next door to me, elderly guy, who I actually thought was a nice guy...... Was a registered sex offender. When I went to the police dept and asked WHY we weren’t informed because children were in the building. I was told the same thing. He did his time, and he registers every yr with the police dept, he’s keeping his nose clean, so they can’t do a thing.....

So even though there are laws, the criminal is still in many cases protected too..... Sad, but true...

 

[Sideways]

I definitely don't have the guts to cross paths with the guy directly, but I figure that I'm also not the only one being filmed. And Not Dead Yet has a mobility disability that means he can't get up the stairs...

So, I've put up a notice in the stairwell alerting the other residents to the camera. Hopefully someone else might take exception enough to do the complaints process for me. If not, an anonymous notice to tenants advising of the presence of a camera has to be no harm, no foul...:whistling:

It surprises even me how much of a pansy I am. Think there may be a few schema issues going on for me with this guy...

 

[Deleted member 12723]

It surprises even me how much of a pansy I am.

I do not read you this way at all, in fact I read that you are a hell of a strong person that has not only survived but is now thriving. FYI so you heard it from me.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 487]

Where is this information about your neighbor being a pedophile coming from? Is he a pedophile, or is it another -phile? I am a gynephile. Does that make me evil? Hated? Despised? Be careful, as you really don't know what it is. Likewise with pedophile. I am not by any means justifying any sex abuse or sex crimes, however, the responses I am seeing here concern me.

I Googled pedophile, knowing it really is a narrow band of sex fetishes. The first response said "a person who is sexually attracted to children". Except...that is a gross over-observation of it. Wikipedia, not being the best of sources, is reasonably close- "criteria for pedophilia extend the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13". ("Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition". American Psychiatric Publishing. 2013. Retrieved July 25, 2013)

If the man is causing you this much grief, compose a letter to the landlord giving everything you know and have experienced. But have it well organized. Keep a copy for yourself.

I hope you get this resolved soon. It seems there is a lot on your mind about this.

 

[Sideways]

Where is this information about your neighbor being a pedophile coming from?

I did my research on the net and had it verified by the police. I totally understand your concern about making sure I'm not vilifying anyone, but that's not happening here. I'm certain.

Even without that label, he's not a good guy. On top of threatening to stab the gardener, he routinely verbally abuses other tenants and their visitors, and has done the same to me. I'm personally a bit afraid of him partly because he comes out of his unit to watch when he hears me coming and going, but mostly because he hit me once when I parked my car in a way he didn't like. Should've reported that, but I was new to the complex, and frankly pretty frightened.

Unfortunately, as I've said, the landlord isn't interested. I confirmed with them today that they're willing to issue him with his second warning if there is a police report made against him for anti-social behaviour. I've also confirmed with the police that the dash cam is, of course, perfectly legal, albeit intimidating.

I'm not one to start conflict with my neighbours, and that includes him despite his behaviour. It's just causing me a lot of anxiety and making it pretty sickening each time I take my dog downstairs to do his business, knowing I'm being recorded each time.

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Report him to the police... If he is a registered sex offender.. There are certain things he can and can't do. Let the police handle it... Tell them how creepy it is for you. They will help you.

 

[Sideways]

@Xena - it's kind of mind blowing, but there's no legal reason for him to not film the apartment complex from his car. So, unfortunately, calling the cops around would just create conflict. And since I'm already afraid of him, that would make my situation worse.

I guess it's hard to find balance. Cops routinely use dash cam footage to prosecute driving offences. And if you're a convicted sex offender, I can understand that you might be pretty concerned about your own safety and want to do what you could to keep yourself safe. Which is his stated reason for having the camera.

At the same time, one does wonder about how much filming of public spaces and common areas we allow convicted pedophiles to film. I think if I had a child walking up the stairs with me, I'd be a wreck with anxiety about that child's safety and the way that footage was going to be used.

 

[The Albatross]

Totally well reasoned to me Ragdoll.

 

[Justplainnutz]

Understand your plight. Sorry to hear. I have a buddy who was 19 and his girlfriend was 16. Dad wasn't happy and had him arrested. He's now a registered sex offender for life. Before we judge too harshly a label someone has perhaps we should know more. Because of my PTSD I have had so called friends ignore me. Thinking I'm going go postal and shooting everyone. I don't even own a gun. My Label the public sees is PTSD, his Label is RSO. Why do we have to judge.

 

[Sideways]

Before we judge too harshly a label someone has perhaps we should know more.

He pleaded guilty to a range of child sex offences, including sodomising a young boy.

I've been more than respective of his 'plight' and already agreed that vilification of people isn't okay.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: I am not vilifying this man. He is a pedophile, and that is factually correct and contextually relevant.

People are well intended with their coming out to defend him, but honestly, it's doing my head in having to keep being toldto get my facts straight. As I've said before, I have the facts. I've had the facts verified by the police.

Any more defence of this man, well intended or not, isn't welcome on this thread.

 

[EveHarrington]

I'm super duper disturbed that people are actually defending this guy.

On a PTSD site.

Full of adults who were sexually abused as children.