Hi everyone,
My partner is an ex.army. Was involved in 2 very brutal wars. I don't know the precise details but I can guess he did quite a lot of bad things too - his 1st war he was 19 years old and had only signed up a few months previously.
It is now 20 years on - army has changed but what he went through I would guess most people would say was brutal.
His problems now seem to fit PTSD but they also fit BPD - is there a connection and/or how does anyone tell them apart?
I have been with him almost 9 years and things are coming to a head in so much I now realise that his problem is not just his alcoholism but the illness lurking behind it. (I know that sounds pathetic, but I really have only just started to realise because I was so focused on the alcohol abuse)
He has started addiction counselling but I think the counsellor is out of his depth. I have also managed to get him to agree to see a therapist specialising in PTSD - hasn't begun yet but my hopes are high.
I am confused about what to expect - is PTSD curable? I understand BPD isn't.
Our relationship is almost over but I am maintaining a link with him because I find it hard to end it when he is so sick but the nightly calls of abuse, suicide threats and threats are taking its toil.
I desperately want to believe he can get better. It wasn't his fault that he ended up like this.
I know it isn't about me, but I feel very alone. My family are sick to death of him and are treating me with disdain because they cannot understand why I still care for him. Both my sisters haven't spoken to me for months and won't have him at any family gatherings.
Anything you can say will help me right now, just need to be able to communicate with people who may understand what it's like to love people with a problem like this.
My partner is an ex.army. Was involved in 2 very brutal wars. I don't know the precise details but I can guess he did quite a lot of bad things too - his 1st war he was 19 years old and had only signed up a few months previously.
It is now 20 years on - army has changed but what he went through I would guess most people would say was brutal.
His problems now seem to fit PTSD but they also fit BPD - is there a connection and/or how does anyone tell them apart?
I have been with him almost 9 years and things are coming to a head in so much I now realise that his problem is not just his alcoholism but the illness lurking behind it. (I know that sounds pathetic, but I really have only just started to realise because I was so focused on the alcohol abuse)
He has started addiction counselling but I think the counsellor is out of his depth. I have also managed to get him to agree to see a therapist specialising in PTSD - hasn't begun yet but my hopes are high.
I am confused about what to expect - is PTSD curable? I understand BPD isn't.
Our relationship is almost over but I am maintaining a link with him because I find it hard to end it when he is so sick but the nightly calls of abuse, suicide threats and threats are taking its toil.
I desperately want to believe he can get better. It wasn't his fault that he ended up like this.
I know it isn't about me, but I feel very alone. My family are sick to death of him and are treating me with disdain because they cannot understand why I still care for him. Both my sisters haven't spoken to me for months and won't have him at any family gatherings.
Anything you can say will help me right now, just need to be able to communicate with people who may understand what it's like to love people with a problem like this.
