New Member - About Me and My Anxiety

[sunnydaze]

Welcome to the forum
sunnydaze

 

[Auburngirl]

Hi there,

I'm new too but welcome! My roomate now knocks at my door and then steps three metres back, knowing that even though I heard her knock, I'm so easily startled that opening the door and seeing her right there will make me jump! In other words, I relate to being constantly startled by things - the opening and closing of doors does it.

I don't really have any advice to give because I've got a ways to go too. But I wish you well, and hope you move past the tough spot you are in now to somewhere more comfortable.

 

[shadowmedic]

jaseb-
welcome to the forum. you are not alone at all. i have suffered from hypervigilance so bad that my wife and i have to sleep in seperate beds. being a war veteran, you learn over a long period of time to sleep light. the problem for me was, i couldn't turn it off once i got home.
as far as whether something or someone is outside trying to do something. i make it a habit of locking all my doors and windows every night before bed. and i live in a pretty safe neighborhood. it is a ritual that i go through every night. i think the important thing to ask yourself is " what is the actual frequency of this happening to me?" i'm not trying to be weird or anything. i ask myself this quite often to "ground" myself.
other than that, all i can say is to seek counseling to help you sort this thing out. its difficult to deal with but it is definately not impossible. respectfully, SM

 

[sisu]

Anxiety is a terrible thing. I went through a period of time after the birth of my 2nd daughter where every time I left my house I would have an anxiety attack. My daughters are 14 months apart so when I had a newborn (my 2nd daughter) ... my older daughter was only 1 year and 2 months old...still a baby. I would fear that I would forget one of them in the car, lose them in the store, not be able to get to a restroom in time, afraid to let someone else drive (then I wouldn't be in control), etc. All of my fears were irrational and I knew it...but I just couldn't control the anxiety. My rational mind knew it was silly to have anxiety about those things. My anxiety issues lasted a couple of years. I lost a ton of weight (wish I could do that now!), detached from my husband (we are now divorced), became angry and on edge all the time and probably was no fun to be around. I eventually got counseling and medication. I am still on medication and I think it keeps me grounded and even keeled.

I guess what I am trying to say. Get some help for your anxiety. It is no way to live for you or your wife. It is hard on you emotionally and physically. I have not had an anxiety attack in years and I never think twice about doing anything. There is life after anxiety.

Good luck to you.
Sisu