Sufferer New, Ptsd From Afghanistan

[Stacey85]

Hey Mouse! Glad to see you. I am glad we're at a turning point as well. He's even made more progress since I last posted, though it's hard to tell exactly how much because our communication and visiting is very limited. He will be there longer than they said at first, but at least we know they are taking it very seriously and he is finally getting the help he has been needing.

On a selfish note, I am honestly hating that it had to get to this point. I feel alone, again, and so very isolated in my thoughts. The little parts of him that are coming back are helping me through though. He's been very positive when we talk, and he's starting to show affection again. All these little things help me keep my eye on the prize, and him too.

 

[Legend]

HooooRaaaa brother I wish you well and welcome, I am new here and have found many that understand me. You are not alone, you are with friends!

 

[MouseWedger]

I am honestly hating that it had to get to this point. I feel alone, again, and so very isolated in my thoughts. The little parts of him that are coming back are helping me through though. He's been very positive when we talk, and he's starting to show affection again. All these little things help me keep my eye on the prize, and him too.

Stacey, the most important thing you need to remember through all of this is how much he loves you and that he is still in there. I think I've promised somewhere on this forum that things will get worse before they get better, but in the end, with hard work and support form our families, we as sufferers do get better and start to return to our old selves. Even the little communication that you have with him helps him more than you can imagine I am sure. I know you feel alone and isolated, but you have us here that you can talk to and lean on while the two of you work through things from that distance. Keep a little notebook of all the "accomplishments" that the two of you experience, like him showing you affection, and pull it out once in a while when you need a reminder of how much better things are getting.

Keep us posted on the progress, and know we're always here if you need a shoulder, or a million :)
Hugs and love,
Mouse

 

[Stacey85]

Thank you! You are all amazing. I know when he gets home and see's how much support we have even just here, he is going to be just as grateful as I am. 2/3 of the kids and I went to see him today (daughter stayed home with grandma because she needed a nap badly) and we had a great visit. He was very affectionate towards me, and very attentive with the boys. He's actually had a letter for me every time I've gone to see him, and that is helping me so much right now.

I think it's easy to get caught up in the negative side of this, but when I am sound of mind, I am just so happy that places like this (and his treatment facility) exist, so we can have our lives back when this is all said and done. I know he will struggle with it the rest of his life, but I believe we are gaining the tools as a family to fight this together, and come out stronger from it all.