Other New To The Forum, Seeking An Open Door.

[ezmover]

Thanks for the advice Velvette.I shall continue rattling the big brains cages.

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

 

[Lucycat]

Hi Velvettte,
Welcome to the forum.
Just to add my penny's worth;

Written expression of trauma can be a really useful tool when paired with arousal reduction techniques.

I HATE the word arousal. My T uses it regularly and I entirely understand the terminology in respect of psychology. However, as a victim of childhood sexual abuse causing my CPTSD it is a word that I find very hard to hear and read. I'm not criticising - just saying. I know everybody has their own foibles and this is one that has just stayed with me when mostly everything else is sorted.

Good luck with your studies. We need people like you!

 

[Barberian]

SO... you don't have PTSD and your looking for guinea pigs to do research on? You won't be getting a welcome from me.

BTW... the door is over there ---> don't let it hit you in the ass on your way out.

 

[anthony]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[Amber8]

I am new to the forum too! I uncovered memories of childhood sexual abuse about five years ago. My father was the abuser. Since remembering, my life has gone upside down and good all at the same time. Sometimes I'm okay, and sometimes I'm not. My husband knows everything. My mom knows and supports me. My father left my mom around the same time. We told our children that papa wasn't very nice to mommy and nana. They were 8, 7, and 3 at the time and now we don't talk about him at all. My oldest son was 18 when I remembered and GE knows about the abuse.

I've been through various therapies and groups over the past five years and was hospitalized for a week as well. I now take cymbalta where I used to take trazadone, and clonazapam, and narcotics for chronic back pain. Now I do not work and receive disability pension. The past month I'm realizing that I need more therapy. I'm broken inside. I can't have sexual relations with my husband since it sickens me to feel pleasure. I too hate the word arousal! Even to type it! I'm hurting so much and it keeps me from being the person I want to be and living the life I want to live! I want help! I'm desperate!

 

[Brad1980]

I was raised by a woman who had untreated PTSD. There were a common traumas that left me PTSD also. My father died and 9 months later our house burned down and 2 of my sisters died. By my mother and I were injured in the fire. Her first suicide attempt was the day the house burned. There were 3 more attempts. My mother was alcoholic, and mentally ill. It wasn't a pleasant childhood by any stretch of the imagination. I still suffer flashbacks after 43 years during April. As child growing up in that environment was insane. As a child I didn't understand what was happening to me as far as my trauma was concerned. My mother would have flashback get drunk, or take the pills that doctors gave her and all hell would break loose. She was incredibly emotionally abusive to the point that I would pray to die. I did that every night for years. My first suicide attempt I was 12. I became an addict and used drugs to feel good like everyone else.

My life has been a series of traumas ever since. I didn't learning any coping skills as a child. I pretty much raised myself from the age 8. I didn't do a very good job.

I got clean a couple of times for years but the stuff in my head wouldn't go away. So I would go back to using drugs. My doctor and therapist agree that my untreated PTSD has been the underlying factor that created my mental health issues. I am clean again and on meds and see a therapist. Thing are getting better but it has been a slow process.

Anybody here who has suffered serial childhood abuse was mostly raised by someone who had trauma in their life. I guess I'm willing to talk to you about it if you like. Good luck on your endeavor.
Peace

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi and Welcome to the Forum. There is a section for Researchers and Studies. It might be beneficial to review. It may offer a direction that is lacking that you are interested in pursuing. Good Luck.

 

[Barberian]

SO... you don't have PTSD and your looking for guinea pigs to do research on? You won't be getting a welcome from me.

BTW... the door is over there ---> don't let it hit you in the ass on your way out.

Ok, that was a bit rude... sorry. Anthony welcomed you, and it's his site. It would be rude of me to be a poor guest in his site and not welcome you. So... Welcome to the forum.

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome. :)

 

[Velvettte]

Ok, that was a bit rude... sorry. Anthony welcomed you, and it's his site. It would be rude of me to be a poor guest in his site and not welcome you. So... Welcome to the forum.

Thank you all for the welcome :)

A couple of things: firstly I apologise if the the use of particular terminology is painful to hear, and I will take that on board with future posts. I operate from a practitioner perspective rather than a person who has experienced trauma - mainly because that is who I am, however I will aim for greater sensitivity.

Secondly: the majority (98%) of my clients are military, with war trauma - not childhood abuse. For most of these people the barriers of disclosure do tend to be self-imposed, many have supportive partners or families who don't know how to help. I absolutely get it that where the trauma has occured within the family, disclosure or support may not be the best option. I am sorry to have implied otherwise.

Re: research guinea pigs, no not looking at all. I am not wanting to 'do' reasearch 'on' anyone. Rather I am looking to gain a really comprehensive understanding about what it is like to live in a family where one of the parents have PTSD. Coming to this forum is more about opening conversations about people's experiences - not to log as data (I would post the research board if that was the case) - just to understand.

So :) with that all said ..... thank you all for the greetings and I have appreciated the openness.
Regards
Velvettte