No Interest In Sexual Relations

[Powder]

Hlost, post: 6152 That period of time was short lived after a dr found several fibroid tumors and a series of surgeries had to take place, somehow sending me through triggers and traumas. It was horrible. I have been lost in layers of clothing since and find the pain of sex so agonizing that my gyno is at a lost. Though there are adhesions, only so much can be done about those. I am sad and upset.

I'm back to trying to relax and enjoy but it hurts, what a trigger! I feel so bad for my husband, who is sweet and doesn't push or want to hurt me. It's not fair to either of us. I understand not getting anything out of it. I don't get a thing out of it except hope that he is satisfied at least a little

I'm sorry to hear about this happening to you and your spouse. They can't do anything for the adhesions? Can you tell me more about what adhesions are and what the pain is like? I believe I have them from the trauma to my insides from CSA. I remember hemoraging once, so I think he broke my vaginal canal open with a tear inside. I think it may have adheared to my lower intestinal/recal canal. I get pain in both organs when either of the other is overstimulated by anything, even just from having sex around the time of the month. Severe, sudden ripping feeling. It happened during childbirth also, but for that, I am wondering what pain is normal. I felt it all in my rectum, which felt like a giant square box was tearing out of it! Ouch! The epidural didn't work. :oops:

Is it normal to have refered pain from one organ to the next, as they are close in proximity, or is it an adhesion, that is what I am trying to figure out. And if my pain is "normal" or is the result of damage from CSA. That's all.

Thanks, Muse

 

[kimba]

My problem is I ran from every relationship once it hit the "sexual"point. Of the two men I would have told and tried to have a sexual relationship with-the first was gay (my high school sweetheart I thought) Talk about confusing!

The second man left because I made him wait for "it" too long. What is ironic is I was finally ready to tell and he dumped me just before I got the chance.

Now I figure I've been alone this long and I'm definately less stressed without worrying about it so why bother? Kimba

 

[Anna]

I quite often just want to be cuddled as well. My partner is very caring and does not pressure me into having sexual relationship but waits until I want to. Problem is that is not very often. I found having hugs and cuddling often helps lead to more intimate relations.

 

[Aberkaz]

I nevered considered myself prudish, but I simply don't respond to sexual touch the way most men would like a woman to, and that makes me feel defective.

Hi Leona,

This is my first time on this website, reading what you have written is like I have written it myself. I always lose interest in sex at around the 6 months mark, I also go for guys who I think are less attractive than myself for the same reason as you. I am at my 'wits' end, and fed up of trying to work this stuff out. I am trying my best to accept what happened, work through. But sometimes I feel maybe it would just be easier to be by myself : (.

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[alfredo]

Dear Leona, in my experience, as someone who helps other people online, it is important to revisit the trauma and try to solve the issue. It is like an obstacle that one has to overcome. Many people can do this and usually takes deep therapy and the right therapist but it can be done and it really worth it because you get your life back.