Dom Violence No Way Out....terrified, Can't Go On

[Whirlwind]

My nasty secret.

I'm 100% alone in life, abusive family I left behind and escaped to a normal life for some time. Then met my met my stunning wonderful husband.

He started abusing me a few months in.... I started to run later, but chickened out and disappeared into my ptsd fog again...

Being with him, the terror of it all has crippled me ever since I realized what he really is, what I did, I walked back into the thing I spent my life waiting to escape.

I had a nice life going and walked right back into the concentration camp. He basically owns me now and he knows it.

I just got another window...a chance to run and now it is slipping away. Details aside, next chance may be a year or more.

I'm not.going to make it, I can't do this any longer.

Whirlwind

 

[desiderata310]

English Summary

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This part of the site might actually be more useful if you are a native German speaker....

 

[Casey_03]

I'm 100% alone in life

But you don't have to be. I know how hard it is to get out of an abusive relationship, especially when you don't have any reliable family members to pull you out. Or anywhere to go. But even if you're not ready to make the leap and get away from your husband now, you should at least start talking to other women in similar situations. Once you have a stronger support system in place, he will start to lose his power. And you will start to see things more clearly.

If you can't find any support groups near you, there are plenty online: Domestic Violence Forums And Chats


You may feel helpless, but you're not helpless. That's just how he wants you to feel, and if you feel that way it means his abuse is working. So don't let it anymore. Reach out and get yourself some support. You reached out here -- and that is a great start.

 

[Freedomfighter]

My nasty secret.

I'm 100% alone in life, abusive family I left behind and escaped to a normal life...

Do you live with this person? If not you already are in the plus, if not then you need to somehow find a way to get out. Since you are not bound to anyone else it can be very easy for you to disappear.

Work tediously and meticulously, your freedom and your life is worth it. If this monster abuses you in any way make sure to start your own evidence file, hidden video cameras that also record voices, pictures maybe of a passed out druggie, any documents that illustrate his threats written or verbal. If he is into anything fishy (like getting drugs from his buddies, getting drunk causing trouble on the street, stealing, anything) get evidence of that behavior. If he beats you document it with videos.

At least that can give you a head start in getting him holed up in jail for a couple of weeks.

As soon as you have that bastard holed up in jail for a couple of weeks is when you make your break, if you disappear while he is in the slammer and you don't tell anyone and erase financial trails you are good to go.

Read the books (available on Amazon) how to disappear, teaches you how to erase financial info from your banks, online records and such.

Seriously, just concentrate to get enough evidence to get the monster in jail, then you have a window for disappearing when you want to disappear.