Not A Bitch Or A Complaint

[Tim &Bailey]

Some of us do alot of bitching and complaining this is where we get it out. For a change Iwould like to talk about my loving wife and service human. Sometimes I sit and see all th shit she has had to put up with me almost dying on her (x3) my x wife all our kids (8) and my PTSD/TBI and all my surgeries and bullshit.

Well I never say it enough, the military wife (spouse) the one who sticks it out and does shit like take over the check book cause you told the car company f*ck off come get the car I'll shoot you in my driveway, or tells your command hey he's broke leave him the fuk alone before I call Channel 2 news and start a big shit storm you useless assholes don't want. The one who pushed me to get into an adaptive sports program (STRIDE WOunded Warrior) and join Wounded Warrior Project. She did all the paper work to get our 501c3 on th emap, she deal with all the blessings and congrats I get and sits by in the corner quietly waiting. Her only reward is I am functioning, I am almost human , still just a shell of the man she sent off to war but her shell. Now always and forever. Her reward isn't here on this earth for surely there is a set of wings and a halo for this woman.

She recently pushed me into a week of culinary arts institute of america. A warrior cooking boot camp cause she knows how much I love to cook. I complained how tired and hurt I was and all she did was smile and say you will love it You need a break.

Thank you for loving me For putting up with the Non profit and especially my Service Dog.Like she always says this is our new normal.

Simply put words can not express how much I love and need you how big a part you played in pulling me from the edge.

I love you

 

[reddevil1111]

Cough* Cough* 8 Kids? Get a television!!! lol
Great post, I feel all warm and fuzzy now. Might have to go yell at the wife with a bit (very small)of love in my voice.
Seriously, I think I will go pat her on the butt and say thanks sport! :)

 

[Anglesachse]

Television? damn thats where the first 4 were sitting while the others were being made. Getting a board game for the whole family would probably be better. LOL

But hell you are right on with that Tim cocker.

I was talking to my misses a week or two ago, and said the Wives who stick around and put up with our shit are the real Special Forces of the military. And we owe them a lot.

 

[Wimp79]

Yeah, and the husbands too... sticking with us when we're f@cked up.... You know you're loved when you put them thru hell and they Give you a kiss and tell you it'll all be ok...

 

[Jimmy1]

It takes a special kind of person to support a person with PTSD, let alone a veteran with PTSD which is a whole different ball game. That person must have thick skin, be selfless, have a good temperament, and just a loving nature.

I explained to Margaret really early on, basically straight upfront that I had PTSD and what went with it.
She still chose to come over and I cooked her a lovely meal. I think she saw the real me somewhere among the facade I put on.

Today it still baffles me why as I can be a real arsehole sometimes. I have seen her lose it once, and I was pretty dumbfounded.

Anyways, I am glad I have her.

 

[JarHed]

Great post Tim

I like you am bless with someone that's always been there for me, no matter what. We've been through the ringer in our life together but somehow, together we've made it through. She's the best part of my life and I don't know how I lucked out to find such a rare and wonderful person.

If you do have someone like that you should be thankful everyday that you have them with you. If not for her I'd either be dead or in jail, and that's a fact. Thanks Tim for reminding us of that.

Jar

 

[tho9900]

Nichol has put up with the after effects you all have been reading about here before this forum was a twinkle in my eye.. (lol) 5 years ago tomorrow we met, we started talking and haven't shut up since. I have gone days and days without talking to her because I bottom out... that may sound horrible.. but she tells me "Tom, I can't support you like this, I love you but for us to survive you have to get more help than I can give" Once she even gave me the phone number to the VA crisis hotline scribbled on a piece of paper with xoxoxoxo underneath it... she has never backed down... always came back.. never even threatened me with "this is it, one more time and I leave" I think she has been braver than I ever could have been.. slowly she has heard more and more of what I saw and did for 10 yrs..

We watched the season end to Greys Anatomy recently... there was a plane crash etc etc... compound fractures, sucking chest wounds (a medic joke, what chest wounds DONT suck? lol) she cried, held me etc.. at the end she hugged me and said "thank you I think I understand you more" the show was real fakey so I wasnt worried about a trigger.. too real for her tho...

Here's to the wonderful people who stuck by us... and no slight to the ones who couldn't .... I know I would find it hard if not impossible to put up with my azz... some of you here would had been out the door months ago (kidding)

Serious... she is twice as strong as I ever could be I think.. She is my pit bull... loyal, and will attack anything that threatens me..

 

[Tim &Bailey]

Great post Tim


If you do have someone like that you should be thankful everyday that you have them with you. If not for her I'd either be dead or in jail, and that's a fact. Thanks Tim for reminding us of that.

Jar

I was dead and on my way to jail (falsely accused of beating the x) I can def relate JarHed