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Not Hospital But Something Similar Maybe?

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Blackjack

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This is probably going to sound a weird thing to ask but does anyone happen to know if there is anywhere that is perhaps a bit like a hospital but not, where you can go for some kind of respite care to get away from a toxic home environment? My home situation is not good at all, I have a hugely narcissistic mother who makes my life hell, a husband who is totally unsupportive, neither of whom know about my PTSD because of their attitude to mental health issues, and I am gradually getting worse and worse having no support and nobody to turn to. My counsellor is currently away on holiday and by the time he gets back, it will be 6 week gap between appointments and I am struggling greatly at the moment to cope. I am also in a lot of pain with my back, stuck in a back brace which is not exactly comfortable but necessary and exhausted from not sleeping due to a combination of stress at home, pain and the nightmares and flashbacks which are getting worse and more frequent.

One of our lovely members on here came up with the great suggestion of me trying to get a few days away on my own somewhere which I could do disguised as being away on work business but I am just a bit concerned about being on my own in a hotel room if I had a bad spell, as I seem to be apt to do lately. The thought of being unwell on my own in a hotel is not ideal. I therefore just wondered if anyone happened to know of anywhere that I could go that might have some kind of care if needed but is not a hospital?? In an ideal world I would go and stay with an understanding friend who was prepared to help but sadly I don't have anyone who would fit the criteria, most of my friends shy away from the whole mental health thing like my mum and husband - probably largely because they don't understand it. I do however badly need to get away from home for a few days to be able to really rest and calm my mind as I know I am becoming increasingly unwell, more and more stressed, constantly teary, constantly feeling like I just cannot cope, am totally over emotional, having panic attacks and just cannot seem to control or cope with myself anymore. I am scared that if I don't do something soon I am going to end up in hospital and being sectioned because that is the point it has got to I am afraid. I try to keep smiling and give the expected answer of "yes, I am fine thanks" when people ask me how I am (apart from the poor folk on chat here who are being so tolerant and understanding right now, offering me amazing support) but I am finding it harder and harder to do.

I came very close to hospital this morning, I had gone into the shop on my way to work, came out and went to my car but couldn't get the tailgate to unlock. I was messing about with it when a policeman walked up the road, very kindly stopped, smiled and asked if I was ok or if I needed help. At that point I just lost it totally and broke down in floods of tears. Policeman called his colleague to bring a car incase it was needed, he sat me in my car and said he thought I needed to go to hospital as I was obviously very distressed but I managed to talk him out of it. Second policeman arrived with car and said he would call an ambulance to get me to hospital as I looked very distressed but thank goodness talked him out of it too and got to work eventually. Sooner or later though I am really not going to be ok so I need to get away for a bit to try and stop that happening.

Any ideas or suggestions anyone of anywhere I could perhaps go to stay for a few nights as I badly need to do something and fast ????
 
Just off the top of my head, is there anything like a therapy retreat that you could go to? There are things like yoga retreats and meditation retreats, I'm sure other modes of therapy might offer them too. Might be worth a Google?
 
Digger, I will be doing something of the kind. I have one friend who I am sure would help me like that. I just need some time away from here. Despite the large amount of pain I been in it's actually been nice to spend the afternoon in bed, largely asleep, just to get some peace.
 
I did this and took the foods I would need to eat, many of them comfort foods and books to read and my journal to write in while I was reflecting. I kept myself very relaxed and it was so great. I wish you the best.
 
@Blackjack , I 'get it'. If possible I'd say a hotel.

But (& I realize with the pain) , what about a break each day? Nature- parks, the beach; a zoo; a coffee shop; a library if that interests you; a church, etc? I'm leaving out 'loud' areas but those are options too if they're something you want. I've found nature or peaceful places or places you won't be found helpful.

ETA, I'm not speaking from the position of someone who doesn't know the gravity of which you are speaking, rather as a person with limited resources or possibilities. The daily-if-possible escape, is more like daily food. Better long term strength. :hug:
 
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I agree with that last post. Even just reading a magazine or book can help. Anything to get your mind off what is troubling you. Also, it might be a wise idea to get them educated on the issues about being PTSD. The stigma can be overcome with Professional help in the form of family therapy. Think about it. Do you want them to be this way for the rest of your life, or would you like to at least try to get them educated about PTSD and have them start to realize that it is an illness, just like Diabetes or any other, which needs to be treated and taken care of on a daily basis.
 
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