Not Meant To Rehash

[Ava Jarvis]

@Ava Jarvis
You post or lack of made me sad too. We are all dealing wit...

Oh, ok.

I'll read along and try to understand. I wish I could understand better.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

:hug:@Ava Jarvis who said "I wish I could understand better"

Those very words are why we are all here.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

@Ava Jarvis

Don't shut the f*ck up. Say what ever the f*ck you please and if you really want to throw a temper tantrum or vent, start a members diary. Say whatever the hell you please. It's your diary. I hope you don't see this as a thread fight. That truly is not my intent.
Every member has a right to express and ask for feedback to get support they need as long as they stay within the guidelines which are not very restrictive. They are there to protect not only us but the existence of the board.
just keep writing.

 

[Ava Jarvis]

Oh this thread isn't a thread fight. I was referring to that other thread... Threads... That are all locked now. So definitely not this thread.

:hug:

 

[ladee]

So far, what each of us are doing to contribute to the forum has been working for our self and others.. so let's just continue to be who we are, learn from each other... and to sometimes learn what doesn't work.... maybe we can all just get back to business... but something like that upsets a lot of the community... but admin tended to it... so we can continue on with what we need to do for our self....

 

[UnKnown-Self]

One more thing @Ava Jarvis
The post you wrote #8 on this thread could have easily been written by me. For at times that is exactly where I am, word for word.

I have work tomorrow so I have to go now *nite*

 

[Ava Jarvis]

One more thing @Ava Jarvis
The post you wrote #8 on this thread could h...

:hug: :hug: :hug: goodnight :hug:

 

[ladee]

Good night everyone... good thread !!

 

[joeylittle]

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/inte...n-replying-to-posts.61856/page-2#post-1007622

I don't know if any of you would have seen this post of mine or not - but it has my thoughts on self, and sharing, and why those things matter, and what some of the things are that make them go wrong.

Every member has a right to express and ask for feedback to get support they need as long as they stay within the guidelines which are not very restrictive. They are there to protect not only us but the existence of the board.
just keep writing.

This, always.

That is why I titled the thread, not to rehash because it wasn't trying to open a wound but trying to examine why I felt some type of way (mostly guilty) and learn from it.

I very much appreciate your thoughtfulness in being specific about this.

We always always have to remember we are on a mental health forum... I am only responsible for me...

Is pretty much the gist of my post referenced, above.

Like this whole thread fight... It just made me want to share my stuff less. To post less. To just, as my father always wanted me to, shut the f*ck up.

This is a really important observation, I think. That the voice that says shut up is in the past, and doesn't have to be part of your present, maybe.

i read a post eariler about some people running away with others threads. Not their words but mine. I felt I needed to say something because I often feel like I do this and it is unintentional.
I know I will often say things about "me" when I am trying to make the suggestion, maybe this is you too, instead of saying maybe you are this or that because when I do that ( and I do) I worry I am making assumptions or judgments based upon my experience or something that post is triggering in me and projecting it on that person.

Sharing what we know, from ourselves, will always be a part of this forum. That never needs to change. And, learning how to ask for what we need, that's another part. Those things aren't at all mutually exclusive.

I wish I could understand better.

Me too, all the time. But honestly, @Ava Jarvis - you are insightful, thoughtful, and honest. I hope a little part of you can hear me saying that.

good thread !!

Agreed.

 

[Ava Jarvis]

Thanks, @joeylittle :)

 

[Crow]

I wanted to post this on the earlier thread:

The times my threads have veered off topic have been some of the best learning moments for me on this forum. It's not all about me and hearing a flow of consciousness if you will has allowed me to view issues with a wide angle lens. I've looked at stuff in ways that would have never occurred to me and learned from other members experiences - even if they weren't at all similar to my original post.

As long as things stay cordial, everyone iswelcomed to veer off course with my threads.

 

[mary1979]

I just want to add to all the feel good vibes, that I reckon @joeylittle, @anthony was once again spot on the money when you were picked up as admin.

You have a way of acknowledging and validating everyone's feelings about a matter and still have no qualms about telling people where they need to take a look at their own actions in a non confronting manner.

You a awesome boss lady :)

So. There's my brown nosing for the day, can I have a chocolate now?