General Not Sure What To Say Or Do

[lisrn]

Just wondering if anyone has any advice on what to do when my spouse loses his temper?

I have tried different things like calmly talking to him to explain what's happening and offering help. Other times I just ignore him and walk away, which is definitely not the best thing to do but sometimes its either that or stand there and get yelled at. And then sometimes I stay and defend myself by telling him he is yelling at me and I am not going to take it I did nothing wrong.

A little history-he knows he has PTSD and that its affecting our marriage but has not gotten help yet. This has been going on for the 3 years we have been together, I met him after his tour in Iraq. I love him and I want to be there for him but just not sure how to handle these situations. I know a therapist would be able to help us communicate better but he hasn't gone for help yet like I said.

Any suggestions are welcome.

 

[Jawn]

Would he be willing to read some of the stuff on this site? I would read all you can of the articles on PTSD and also the ones from the Carer section. Having him read the PTSD articles might help him understand his condition better.

Not to be too blunt, but until he wants to get help, things won't get much better. However, the Carer articles may help you deal with him in a better fashion.

Jawn

 

[lisrn]

Thanks for the input, I have been reading on this site and I have found it helpful just to know I am not alone. I will mention this site to him but I'm pretty sure he thinks he knows it all, maybe if he sees it helps me he will be interested. Thanks again!