Now What?

[Married_to_PTSD]

Every time I think we're doing alright something happens. I breathe the wrong way. I eat the wrong way. I show the least bit frustration when dealing with my spouse and we're right back in a bucket of crap. Does this EVER get any better? Can anyone out there give me even one compelling reason why I should not just take my kids and leave?

 

[blueangel371115]

From my personal experience, security and stability are key to recovery. They may just need to know you support them and care about them. But that's just my two cents. Welcome to the forum. There are many people form all over around here.

 

[amethist]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

Its not easy being a supporter, especially if you feel overwhelmed with it all.

come down to the supporters area, where you will find lots of useful threads of how other have been where you are now, and manged to keep going. It is not easy, and it does take an enormous amount of time and patience. Maybe start by ready some of the sticky notes at the top of some of the different sections, they may help you to pick up and keep going.

It can get better, but only if your spouse is doing all they can to heal, and giving you the respect you deserve.

Take good care of yourself, it is important.

Amethist

 

[spursfan80]

The easiest way I find to describe it to people helping me is bad PMT on top of bad PMT - they can grasp how most women feel with PMT and then have a small idea of what is going on in my head. As long as you and your kids are safe, stick with it and just be there for your spouse. Unfortunately, most of the time you will feel like your getting all the flack, sometimes I do this and don't realise I've done it until I'm having a better day, but make sure you enjoy the good days no matter how rare they are.

 

[Mockingbird13]

HI Married !
I also am married to PTSD..and gosh there are time when I too just want to say "ENOUGH" and just go - but then I take a step back and breathe. I love my husband and want to help and be his support because I believe if tables were turned he would do the same for me - but ultimatly I love him.

PTSD does not condone bad behavior and if I ever felt he were puttting myself or our daughter in harms way, you better believe I would be gone.

I feel that I walk on egg shells constantly and that it seems like Im the one making most of the adjustments - so unfair, and I too agree that it seems like I just cant win, like everything I do is wrong..UGH.

Right now so I dont completly lose it I remember that I must take care of myself and our daughter first. I remind myself that he has so much going on in his head that this is not the real him. I pray daily that he will soon be able to have better control on his outbursts and one day feel emotions and love.

Until then...we can support each other on good days and bad. - You are not alone in this...I hear you !