Childhood Nudity, scantily clad women, and anything sexual triggering freak outs on my partner

[Justmehere]

Have you talked to a therapist about this?

 

[sad and miserable]

im just someone that accepts others as they are ( despite accusations im trying to change them), and i happen to actually love the man unconditionally faults and all, I dont see him as someone thats there to fulfil or make me happy, only i can do that. even if im not because of other stuff lol :)

 

[Gs172003]

im just someone that accepts others as they are ( despite accusations im trying to change them), and i happe...

That nice.
I will still recommend counseling for the both of you. It's needed so he can understand what's going on and you can learn that you have needs too.

 

[Justmehere]

Acceptance of people just as they are is one thing.

Working out a relationship problem is something different.

If acceptance means allowing really super unhealthy relationship dynamics into your life, then it’s not actually a very kind or loving type of acceptance for either of you.

You know something needs to change, and a therapist can best help sort that out.

 

[EveHarrington]

thanks fiona and no dont worry you didnt upset me, my heart goes out to you for what you have suffered :)
an...

How am I the one missing the point?

I am the one who said to not try and change people.

My idea/input, my point. Understand how that works?

I’m not trying to be rude, but how can I possibly miss the point of my own statement? LOL.

Really, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone, don’t try and change them. I don’t understand how you think that just because you’re old and in a LTR that means the “don’t change people” premise doesn’t apply to you. *puzzled*

It sounds to me like you have low standards, low self esteem, and unhealthy boundaries. Accepting people as they are is a good thing when you have healthy standards, healthy self esteem, and healthy boundaries. And accepting people as they are doesn’t mean you keep bad people in your life who don’t treat you well. This guy is the reason you only see your son once a year? Are you for real? Putting a man in front of your own kids? I think you need professional help to work through all of this stuff!

 

[Gs172003]

How am I the one missing the point?

I am the one who said to not try and change people.

My id...

Lol she's old? She's 46.

 

[joeylittle]

The OP has decided to leave the site. This thread will remain locked.

For the OP, if you are looking for your post - the site administrator (me) doesn’t take well to guest posters announcing they are leaving because they are vulnerable and have been attacked by a member.

You’ve been challenged and disagreed with, that’s all. This site isn’t here to simply provide validation. I agree, it’s not the right place for you.