Sufferer My Trigger Is Nudity - How Will I Survive In Today's World?!

[NewLifeInChrist]

Hi Digger,

I certainly don't believe he intentionally triggered me. This just seems to be one of the...

I too have PTSD and can relate to what you are saying. I've been sexually abused in many relationships and found out ex boyfriend's were watching porn while I was working. I've even snuck up on them in the act of watching it. These things have led me to feeling that horrible attack when my fiance and I watch movies and a nude or sex scene comes on. It even happens on intense kissing scenes in which they imply sex. I've told him my past and I've told him how bad it hurts me and that I don't think it's right for him to look at other women naked. Especially because I don't watch movies with that crap in it. I don't know what to do about this. It's killing me inside.

 

[ziter]

I relate to this. I have exactly the same trigger. Also being nude myself. Causes anxiety. I have decided to commence therapy, after a hiatus from it for a while.

And BTW, watching porn all day seems to be the worst advice I have ever heard. Porn is often very damaging to adult survivors of sexual abuse, and many of us use or have used it as re-enactment and/or a drug. DO NOT DO THIS, I very strongly urge you to switch counselor if that is the best he can come up with it!

Sincerely yours,
ziter

 

[Aimo]

I find this thread interesting, mainly because of how you said you got angry at your bf but you don'...

That was great advice thank you. I struggle with this too, I'm scared to watch any new programmes especially with my boyfriend. When a nude scene comes on (sometimes still in underwear) my whole body twists inside and I shake uncontrollably, my boyfriend can't touch me because I'm in a state of holding myself pretrified. Its so disturbing and also embarrassing, its hard to get confident sexually and comfortable in your own body when the whole world is so liberated with sexualised nudity. I feel like an alien for shaking and crying at lockerroom banter and nudity while everyone else finds it hilarious. I wonder if I'm more afraid of the physiological response to the trigger more than the actual event that triggered me. Either way, its hard to know whether to stay in the relationship or stay in this one knowing how I'll be triggered around him any time and more pain is on the horizon. I keep thinking to end things and put an end to him trying to reassure me and me trying to integrate this awful trigger, but I'm afraid every relationship I ever have will bring this horrible fear of sex and nudity to the surface

 

[TruthSeeker]

First off, a boyfriend you live with has no business looking at naked women. He's supposed to only be...

Yea, I'm not real hip on nudity, but this seems a bit of an over-reaction. It is a television show....granted it has an R rating but that's not the same as porn. You might consider rethinking your response.

Thanks for your reply! The problem I also run into with "getting to the root of the issue" is not reme...

Try drawing what you feel-what comes into your head. That's what I do. I get some interesting feedback from myself!