Oh How Lonliness Affects Me At Times.

[Honeygator]

Wow, I just had to dump this guy, I only went out with him 2 weeks before he screwed up. I have PTSD, he's a Vietnam Combat Vet.

I didn't know how lonely I was, but he just wouldn't have worked out, he doesn'thave his PTSD under control.

I didn't have high hopes for a relationship, but now I feel so damn lonely. And that's affecting my PTSD. I've been through this before, and I just don't want to hole up.

I really didn't realize how lonely my life is though. How do y'all handle lonliness?

 

[99Phoenix99]

When I'm lonely I have a few different responses.

• Cry -which can help at times but can also make things worse
• Go onto this website - which can really help a lot. You can find some really powerful threads that you can connect to. It helps me feel a little less lonely when I can share thoughts with others
• Call/text a friend and make plans to go out
• Do something that'll make me happy- After almost every therapy session I'm upset so I go to the local comic book store that's nearby. I don't have to buy anything but I surround myself with the geektastic stuff I like. It really helps to calm me down.
• When the weather was good I'd make it a point to bring my dog to the dog park. Anything to just change my location.

That's what comes to mind for me.

 

[saffy]

Hi Honeygator,

I am sorry you feel lonely. I do sometimes as well.

For me I had to learn to like my own company so I did not have to rely on others to feel that gap. It only led to disappointment and regret. I had certain expectations and as soon as they 'screwed' up in my eyes they were history too.

Phoenix99 has given some good advice.

Try doing lots of things until you find something you are really interested in. Hobbies? Research? Self development?

Having others around you should enrich your life as an addition, I think, rather than be your whole life's worth. If that makes sense.

Also, I do not think that because you have ptsd you can only date those with it. It might give you something in common but it is a negative relationship because you are both trying to deal with your own issues, and so might 'screw' up without even realising it.

I hope you find some peace.:)

best wishes
Saffy :)