Opening up or staying silent

[Deleted member 46752]

in your relationships with friends/family and or new people do you think it is best to tell them outright about your condition with the hopes of understanding or do you just keep such guarded and hope they don't notice? which path do you think is best? or is it subjective?

 

[Suzetig]

Relationships with family are different from friends and different again from new people.

Close family know what I’m struggling with, and so do some close friends, but not all. New people I don’t tell unless and until the point where they become close friends.

Two questions I find helpful are

A. Why am I telling them?
B. How do I hope they willl respond?

If the answer to both questions feels out in any way I don’t tell.

 

[Esterio]

I keep it to myself now tried to talk to family and friends and it never went well

 

[Deleted member 46752]

Great responses I value them

 

[Deleted member 46752]

I keep it to myself now tried to talk to family and friends and it never went well

Sorry to hear, this is mainly why I ask because some people have gotten upset at me thinking I'm ignoring them when I'm isolating and don't know if I should tell them, like I would hope they would understand but at the same time I'm scared they would mock me and or shun me

 

[grit]

I do not tell anyone. If anyone notices anything that is fine but I am not into advertising my health issues. With my partner, he knows cause he lives with me. But with friends, work people, others, the question is why and what am I getting out or what are they gonna get it out?