Supporter Partner With Ptsd From Severe Bullying

[Jencordiner]

Hi! My partner definitely has PTSD after severe bulling as a child. Just joining this helps. It's a hard road and he's angry and aggressive at times. In compete denial too. Helps reading your stories. Thanks guys. :) xxx

 

[amethist]

Hi and welcome.

Come down to the supporters area, where you will find loads of help and support.

Remember to look after yourself too, it is important.

 

[Jencordiner]

Thanks so much. Feel quite emotional receiving your reply. I never realised how lonely this feels until you did. I will head down to the supporters area. Sending love to you. X

 

[Amy Jo]

Hello and welcome. I love seeing people here that are here to support their loved ones with PTSD--a lot of us don't have that kind of support but it helps to know it's possible.

 

[Jencordiner]

Hi Amy. Thank you. I myself suffered PTSD after being sexually abused. This gives me some insight and understanding although my symptoms were different than my partners. It's a hard road as you know but this forum is a god send. Sending love and hugs! X

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Love and hugs. My PTSD has affected me the same as your partner. I, unfortunately, through my rages have driven my family from me. I am encouraged that there are supporters like you who have an in-depth understanding of just how this affects sufferers. There is not enough known about it worldwide and I experience ignorance on a daily basis.

Thank you once again x

 

[Jencordiner]

Laurie you have my full support. I understand how frustrating it is for you, I see it on a daily basis and this week is especially hard. I have two young children who are really finding it hard too. The reason I fight on I know it's not his fault. I have no way of letting him know it's PTSD that's causing this. He was open to it a while back but shut down again. He really suffers and so do we. I have to remain hopeful. He deserves to be happy. It is a terrible thing that so many suffer through no fault of their own and the support is limited so I'm glad this forum exists for us all. Chat anytime. Love and hugs back. X

 

[Deleted member 20280]

My only wish is for my wife of 19 years, mother to our 6 children, youngest only 5 days old to learn what PTSD is all about. She has enough to cope with having a new born at home. One day I pray it will be different.

X

 

[Jencordiner]

Listen I've no doubt you are both devastated. I can imagine having a new baby and going through this. You must keep strong sweetheart. The fact you know you suffer this awful PTSD is half the battle. Does she come on the forum. I would happily support her too as Im sure others would. Love and hugs to you. And thank you. X

 

[Deleted member 20280]

My wife will not come on the forum as she sees only the physical me. This saddens me as she will not engage or try to understand this. She says I have had enough chances.

I will fight this for me now, no one else as it was me that was abused.

I am being selfish for all the right reasons now. There may be no "I" in team but there is "me" and healing that little me is what I need to focus on now.

X

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

 

[Resilientbibliophile]

Welcome,

If you've not already reviewed such material, I've found nonfiction works that speak of the dynamic of adolescent/teen girl bullying especially helpful given that aggression directed towards boys and men is never exclusively physical. Terms tossed up include 'alternative aggression', 'social aggression', and 'relational aggression'. I'm sorry things are hard, that denial and outbursts of displaced aggression are on the menu presently, but know there are many good people here.

Constituting a different diet by degree, I'm finishing a work by Charles A. Waehler that is titled Bachelors: The Psychology of Men Who Haven't Married (1996). While I know it isn't a strict trauma title, there is some real worth here. For selective reading, it can be discerned how some deeply isolated men (with trauma perhaps being implied) imperfectly function in relation to others, their proclivities, their defense mechanisms, their fear of registering emotion if anger seems the only emotion they might feel, noted tendencies to withdraw/to run away from conflict - i.e. the lot. The last three chapters of the book in particular are exceedingly well-thought out and written, seemingly constituting a guide towards relating to someone in the combined thrall of bullying legacies, severe isolation and the absence of mirroring opportunities that could trim out idiosyncratic behavior(s), and the expected interpersonal skill lacks. This definitely wasn't a drug store purchase I'm very pleased to report, whereas the tone isn't dour - thank goodness.

I'm sure there are better 'dedicated' titles out there in relation to evolving a relationship beyond uncomfortable stasis, but given such attention was paid in this title to masculine expressions of dysfunction that so easily dovetails into more mainstream trauma literature I've read, as one might say 'there is something here'. I hope others may soon contribute other titles like it - or better, more focused for their deliberate and systematic application to matters. Kind regards...


M.