Sufferer Past Abusive Relationship; Now Marriage Problems

[arhodd]

One abusive relationship was all it took. Ten months of pure hell at the hands of a boyfriend who mentally, physically, emotionally and sexually abused me. I was diagnosed with PTSD about a year ago.

Before the abusive relationship I was relatively normal. I was happy, trusting, calm. I married my current husband five months after I broke up with the abusive boyfriend. He's trustworthy and gentle. Yet I can't trust him and I have a fight or flight response if he as much as disapproves of a dish I cooked. It's bad. We've been together almost two years.

I've tried several meds, but they either don't help or I haven't found a doctor who knows what to prescribe. Yoga helps, but I still get triggered at least once a week. I'm looking for ways to self-treat because my husband doesn't support therapy. He doesn't actually believe I have PTSD because he thinks it only happens to those in highly traumatic situations, like war or years and years of abuse.

I think he doesn't want to admit that A) my situation was that bad and B) that I could have something so serious and difficult to treat.

That's my story. I hope to find support here since I have little at home. I need to be normal again or I'm pretty sure my marriage will end.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Arhodd,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

I hope you find the information on this site helpful. It is difficult to work on getting better without support of a spouse, so I hope in time your husband will be open to learning and perhaps understanding more. The support of the members here is amazing and you will find that you are not alone in your struggles.

Wishing you the best.

Debbie

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Hello and welcome to the forum. :)

 

[arhodd]

It is difficult to work on getting better without support of a spouse, so I hope in time your husband will be open to learning and perhaps understanding more.

Thank you, Debbie. I would love for my husband to be supportive, but I can't put my treatment on hold until he is, because he may never be. He just wants me to be "normal." He's never experienced anything really traumatic in his life, so he just doesn't get it.

I'm hoping by hearing from others who can relate to my plight, I will be able to beat this and be myself again.

 

[safenow]

Hi arhodd,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum. Are you going to find lots of wonderful, caring, supportive people here. There is also some great information you can share with your husband so he might be able to understand better.

When I find what I'm thinking of, I'll come back and post it for you. It's nice to meet you. I'm sorry you had such hell with your past relationship. I'm just glad you are out of it now. Let's hope we can teach your current husband a thing or two that can help him to be even more supportive of you.

 

[dms]

Welcome! I came to this site as a desperate carer wanting to know how to deal with my X sufferer, however I was diagnose with PTSD last week too. It's kinda ironic.