J_trustno1
Diamond Member
Okay, I don't know if this is the right place for this thread or not ? I'm going to write on this topic here anyway.
Well, well , where do I start on this endless topic?
Yes, It's about my family again but it's from a different angle today. A little background for those who haven't read my previous posts:
I grew up in a dysfunctional family where domestic violence was considered normal, child labor is also considered normal, emotional, physical and verbal abuse are far more normal here than anyone could think of..
My brother and I have been victim of child labor, emotional and verbal abuse together but I had a bit extra which involves childhood sexual and physical abuse as well. It all started when I was little and the people involved in this were my mum's siblings (bastard narcissistic brother, pedophile brother-in-law, bitch sisters). These people left no event to emotionally or verbally abuse you. They never missed a chance to bring you down be it your own house or their own family gatherings. My own father tried killing me when I was 10, he tried forcing suicide on my mother twice and God knows how many other times, he also beat her, abused her verbally. He (father) never considered me good enough and always compared me to my brother despite how well I did in school but in his eyes I still have been the dumbest kid in comparison to my brother despite having higher qualification or getting better grades than him. My brother still had more advantages than me in the family and he has always been considered the nicest , kindest soul by my father who gave him special treatment being the male child. My mum's family also considered my brother better than me since they could get him to mold in their ways and get him to do shit their ways i.e. in other words I was the culprit, bitch, rude, sarcastic, cold, and scar (i.e. villain from the Lion king) of the family.
Anyway, let's not get side tracked on this topic. So let's get back to the topic:
These people have always liked my brother despite giving him shit treatment. Since he always did things their way and never stood up for himself, he's considered the kind kid. On the other hand, I have been considered horrible because I have been outspoken and they couldn't mold me their ways.
What really pisses me off is that, how can my brother do things for them when they have also treated him like doormat and at times partially been okay to him? Two months ago, no one dropped my brother to their airport when he was going to his Europe trip but me and my mother. Now they (mum's siblings and their kids) are going to their trip overseas and they asked him to meet them, he's going to drop them to the airport. I mean how can you be nice to those people who do nothing for you but you keep giving?? I can NEVER do this. There have been other instants where my mum's bastard brother would give my brother some expensive gifts and in return my brother would do favors for him i.e. doing his shopping, fixing his house or some other labor jobs he assigned to him. My brother would give up on his priorities to help these people who do nothing good but throw a small treat that you would normally throw at a cat or a dog to get them to listen to you.
This people pleasing behavior of his doesn't stop here. He then complains about being used by them or their kids who don't return favors to him when he's in need. This has been happening to him for the last 14 years and he's not willing to stand up for himself but complain to me about it. These people (mum's siblings) have also humiliated him in their parties when he used to be over weight and now he's still being their DOG!!! At least Dogs are only nice to those who are nice to them!
Next comes my mother who is of no difference to my brother. She's been treated the same way but she still does things for these people. She still visits my father who is living abroad despite him giving her all that treatment. Then she also complains about their mistreatment and not doing anything about it.
My question is: How the hell can you keep repeating this behavior when people are treating you this bad?
I have cut ties with all those assholes of my life and I have disagreed to do favor for them even when I was a kid despite being labelled all those horrid titles but my self-worth is more important than what these want out of me.
Do these people pleasers also irritate you?
I might've lost the plot here but I'm not a story write so please pardon my writing skills for this topic.
Thank you in advance.
Well, well , where do I start on this endless topic?
Yes, It's about my family again but it's from a different angle today. A little background for those who haven't read my previous posts:
I grew up in a dysfunctional family where domestic violence was considered normal, child labor is also considered normal, emotional, physical and verbal abuse are far more normal here than anyone could think of..
My brother and I have been victim of child labor, emotional and verbal abuse together but I had a bit extra which involves childhood sexual and physical abuse as well. It all started when I was little and the people involved in this were my mum's siblings (bastard narcissistic brother, pedophile brother-in-law, bitch sisters). These people left no event to emotionally or verbally abuse you. They never missed a chance to bring you down be it your own house or their own family gatherings. My own father tried killing me when I was 10, he tried forcing suicide on my mother twice and God knows how many other times, he also beat her, abused her verbally. He (father) never considered me good enough and always compared me to my brother despite how well I did in school but in his eyes I still have been the dumbest kid in comparison to my brother despite having higher qualification or getting better grades than him. My brother still had more advantages than me in the family and he has always been considered the nicest , kindest soul by my father who gave him special treatment being the male child. My mum's family also considered my brother better than me since they could get him to mold in their ways and get him to do shit their ways i.e. in other words I was the culprit, bitch, rude, sarcastic, cold, and scar (i.e. villain from the Lion king) of the family.
Anyway, let's not get side tracked on this topic. So let's get back to the topic:
These people have always liked my brother despite giving him shit treatment. Since he always did things their way and never stood up for himself, he's considered the kind kid. On the other hand, I have been considered horrible because I have been outspoken and they couldn't mold me their ways.
What really pisses me off is that, how can my brother do things for them when they have also treated him like doormat and at times partially been okay to him? Two months ago, no one dropped my brother to their airport when he was going to his Europe trip but me and my mother. Now they (mum's siblings and their kids) are going to their trip overseas and they asked him to meet them, he's going to drop them to the airport. I mean how can you be nice to those people who do nothing for you but you keep giving?? I can NEVER do this. There have been other instants where my mum's bastard brother would give my brother some expensive gifts and in return my brother would do favors for him i.e. doing his shopping, fixing his house or some other labor jobs he assigned to him. My brother would give up on his priorities to help these people who do nothing good but throw a small treat that you would normally throw at a cat or a dog to get them to listen to you.
This people pleasing behavior of his doesn't stop here. He then complains about being used by them or their kids who don't return favors to him when he's in need. This has been happening to him for the last 14 years and he's not willing to stand up for himself but complain to me about it. These people (mum's siblings) have also humiliated him in their parties when he used to be over weight and now he's still being their DOG!!! At least Dogs are only nice to those who are nice to them!
Next comes my mother who is of no difference to my brother. She's been treated the same way but she still does things for these people. She still visits my father who is living abroad despite him giving her all that treatment. Then she also complains about their mistreatment and not doing anything about it.
My question is: How the hell can you keep repeating this behavior when people are treating you this bad?
I have cut ties with all those assholes of my life and I have disagreed to do favor for them even when I was a kid despite being labelled all those horrid titles but my self-worth is more important than what these want out of me.
Do these people pleasers also irritate you?
I might've lost the plot here but I'm not a story write so please pardon my writing skills for this topic.
Thank you in advance.
