People Who Make Fun Of People With Ptsd? Call Them Useless Trash?

[whserenitynluv]

I need your help and feedback is much appreciated. When someone comes on here for help and support, isn't that what this place is for? There is a very dear friend of mine who is in a compete state of panic because not only is she getting total biased opinions from others in society for her ptsd, and the condition of her life. They call her a train wreck baggage holder? Mock her and laugh because of it, and make complete fun of her on dating sites. Calling her white trash. Their friends make fun of the way she lives, they come through with bias names on websites, trying to claim diagnosis of sociopath pretend to be her friend and say they support her, just to use it against her? I want to help her .
Personally it makes me sick that people would go to such lengths and do that. It makes me angry that these people who claim to be so well to do and put together and claim they care about people, but don't actually try to help her, but instead behind her back point at her and talk about her like that, like she doesn't really know.
What does she do? She was continuing to talk to these so called friends, even try to do nice things for them. Thinking they really care and want to help, to get hurt by them over and over. What can I do to help my friend. It's breaking my heart and I don't know what to do, she is just distraught, and the thought of it makes me think of someone who would beat a homeless dog just because it looked shaggy, and that's abuse. Anyway your thoughts about this will be much appreciated, thank you very much :)

 

[Barberian]

People like that don't sound like friends. They sound more like enemies. Why would anyone allow enemies to be such an important part of their lives? You sound like you know the answer on what to do, but lack the courage to do it. It won't be easy, so I'm not condemning or putting you down in any way.

 

[Sammyiam]

Hi,
I am really careful who I tell only a very few people know about me, a handful of very close friends. Even my birth family don't know and I keep away from social events and family gatherings so I don't see them very much at all. I am sad that people would be so mean to her, people are a horrible bunch aren't they. The cruel side of people seem to come out first to make fun of easy targets, and having PTSD makes you an easy target, especially because most people with PTSD nearly always has other disorders, ie : anxiety, depression, OCD, eating disorders, etc so makes you an even bigger target.
When you said ;

I need your help and feedback is much appreciated. When someone comes on here for help and support, isn't that what this place is for?

Just not sure what you are saying ;
Are you saying that she is a member here and has dealt with people being mean to her or are you just saying this is a place for people to come ?

I am 100% sure people on here wouldn't do that. Has she thought of joining this site if not already a member ?

Can she distance herself from the so called friends she has at the moment, and try and find some support places that would help her, is she in therapy at the moment ? I sure hope she finds some help and gets some nice people in her life.
This place is a great site and might be a great starting point if she isn't a member.

 

[whserenitynluv]

I'm venting for sure @Barberian. This is true, and she tries to avoid it as much as possible, the problem is they are neighbors, or close friends revealing information. Or a past relationship to her who despite her own self exploited her and put her down. They will make up fake profiles and completely make fun of her,but won't "say" it is them, but let her spill her heart out,then she catches on and tries again. She is trying to get help, and this isn't helping her ptsd at all. Your right they aren't friends, and if personally wouldn't want friends who even treated enemies this way. Everyone's had hard times, everyone's seen the hard side.

 

[whserenitynluv]

@Sammyiam thank you, I cannot stop crying over this. She is really an amazing soul, and it breaks my heart.

 

[Sammyiam]

Can you get her to join this site, it would be a great starting point ?

:D we are all a very understanding bunch as we have all been through loads of stuff :p
I'm on chat if you would like to come on and talk about it

 

[Justmehere]

It sounds like she is in a trauma reenactment cycle with these online bullies/a--holes. There are a lot of jerks on the internet as is... Some are drawn towards bullying victims for their own screwed up horrible reasons.

Have you seen these people do this to her online? Maybe you could flag them to moderators of those forums or websites.

 

[whserenitynluv]

Thank you for your support :)

 

[TonyG]

As a matter of interest what sites would this be, and why go back

 

[ms spock]

What does she do? She was continuing to talk to these so called friends, even try to do nice things for them. Thinking they really care and want to help, to get hurt by them over and over. What can I do to help my friend. It's breaking my heart and I don't know what to do, she is just distraught, and the thought of it makes me think of someone who would beat a homeless dog just because it looked shaggy, and that's abuse.
:)

From my perspective it sounds like she is repeating an abuse pattern.

 

[Lucycat]

When someone comes on here for help and support, isn't that what this place is for?

Yes it is. - Are you suggesting that this forum has not been supportive?

not only is she getting total biased opinions from others in society for her ptsd, and the condition of her life

You will always get biased opinions. We are all biased - even those of us who are educated about PTSD. Being human means being biased depending on our own life experiences, values and beliefs.

They call her a train wreck baggage holder

I don't even know what this means.

make complete fun of her on dating sites

How do the people on a dating website know that she has PTSD. It would be a strange thing to declare so publicly before you have even met someone.

Their friends make fun of the way she lives,

So friends of people she knows through an internet site are making fun of her ? How could she possibly know what friends of Internet acquaintances are doing?

they come through with bias names on websites

What is a bias name?

trying to claim diagnosis of sociopath

What is she saying that leads people on websites to make any kind of diagnosis about anything?

 

[The Albatross]

Agree completely about the reenactment cycle suggestion, however understand that she may be driven by need for connection to others and that attempting to actualize this need is somehow attracting trolls, manipulators, and less desirable people to her. I think I would gently call her out on it, and try to suggest/guide her to resources in her own community/location for opportunities for face to face relationships/social things with others so she can get the benefit of visual and auditory feedback rather than just words on a screen.

A gym, a hobby club, a church if she is so inclined, a support group... I even did at one point classes at the local Home Depot.

Are you a face to face friend or an internet one? If face to face, perhaps you could consider investing more time with this person.