Perps Are Going To Jail

[Truckinjoan]

Perps are going to jail, 3-5 in state prison. Why don't I feel all that much better?

TJ

 

[Truckinjoan]

Reall thought I would be elated. Any one else had this?

 

[anthony]

Justice isn't necessarily a solution to emotions... more a solution to punishing a person who did wrong. Emotions aren't that easily solved.

 

[Srain]

I always remember the horrifying reality that for every pedaphile they have destroyed 10's of 100's of lives...I scream inside each time they flash a shot of one caught here, especially in our school system....just think how many children they have been in contact with.

My reaction is not one of joy, it's complete and total RAGE!! :ninja:

 

[simplekindofgirl]

I understand this all too well. The justice or punishment for the action does not give you anything back. We always believe that when the day comes when the punishment is given that we will somehow feel that justice has been served- and for some people it gives them some level of comfort depending on the circumstances. But often this simply isn't true. Let's face it, we can all pretty much agree that we suffer from PTSD because something was taken from us that we can not get back. The punishment that the perp (or perps) receives does not give us back that thing that was taken from us.

For some things- there simply is no justice.

 

[Truckinjoan]

You are so right. I thought it would be like it is on tv, the family of the victim hug each other and everyone walks out of the courtroom feeling grate and life starts anew.

 

[Srain]

I get that, I had 2 yrs where I dreamed that I would face my father in court, finally seeing him shrivel at the horror he is responsible for, so the deflation of having the courts throw the case out was flattening...I tried every angle and although I broke his practice and I got another brief charge when he got prostate cancer, it didn't last because not only did I remember that sexual abuse is not about sex it's about power - he beat the cancer. He eventually died of something else and even that hasn't erased the reality of his victims and that's just ONE of them off the streets. He had friends.

I do have some hope that the glaring spotlight and the public outrage carries some weight. That reminding people it is NOT okay to victimize and it's NOT about sex it's about power and you are being hunted like the animals you are, maybe that will help. I'm not totally pessimistic but I am realistic about this, I think.

I'm sorry you are feeling the way you are, I truly am and at least that's 3-5 down.

Peace,
Rain

 

[simplekindofgirl]

Oh Srain. I am so sorry.

I can sympathize. There is no justice. Hugs to you guys.

 

[Truckinjoan]

Lots of virtual hugs for you Srain. I know he is burning in hell!

 

[simplekindofgirl]

Truckinjoan and Srain- I am sorry that you have gone through this. I do know how it feels- I truly do. There is no satisfaction in it, there just isn't. Ever. Hugs to you.

 

[Paranoid10]

This may sound a bit cynical as to what I am about to say and I, by no means want to offend anyone, with it.

I find that today's current judicial system to be a joke, in reality. We have gotten a bit too soft with all the "political correctness" and identifying exactly what a prisoner is or is not entitled too.

In my opinion, if you are a prisoner, you have no rights. Period.

I find the dungeons of midevil times to be a much more appropriate punishment for these individuals rather than the current prisons that are equipped with cable tv for prisoners to watch or their ability to get a college education while they are being "punished."

Some people may say that I am just as bad as an offender when saying that I would rather see an offender go through "prolonged torture" rather than the death penalty. But my rationale is that, if I am a victim, I would want these crackheads to suffer just as much as I have suffered. Death just seems way too humane.

 

[intothelight]

The judicial system can be a mine field. First there is the horror of reporting the crime, surviving the investigation (by then the abuser knows you have outed them), then you have to wait to see if the prosecutor will bring charges, then there is finally the arrest, the bond hearing, the posting of bail, the release, the prep for the trial, the trial and then waiting for the jury to decide. It is a long and arduous process and so many times it falls apart at any point.

But it is all we have and the only justice in this life. My family lost many battles too many times, but finally we won and put him away for good. But the price was very, very high. Not so much elation as relief. Then the sadness of the life sentence we all carry.