Phone session?

[Deleted member 37474]

The first time that I ever spoke to my T was on the phone. It was about scheduling, somehow during that conversation and some of my questions for her, I majorly broke down crying. Her tone changed and it was extremely comforting. She knew the right things to say. It wasn’t a “session,” but it gave me a tone and comfort that I have held onto between sessions.

 

[hymnless]

Thanks for all the feedback guys! I’m still pretty nervous but I’m sure it’s going to be fine. And if it really goes badly I’ll just follow @UnicornSightings advice and hang up on her!

 

[UnicornSightings]

Thanks for all the feedback guys! I’m still pretty nervous but I’m sure it’s going to be fine....

Lol! You’re gonna do great! And just remember that sooooo many people have phone calls. You’re so not alone. Honor your courage and reward yourself after it’s done.

Lol! You’re gonna do great! And just remember that sooooo many people have phone calls. Yo...

That was “hate” phone calls but both are true lol

 

[hymnless]

I appreciate the vote of confidence but I don't know if "great" is how I could qualify it lol. I made it 11 minutes before she finally asked me if it would be easier for me to text. It felt like I had all of my thoughts sorted out but then I went blank when I saw her calling. I also felt oddly uncomfortable hearing her voice? If that makes sense? It's like my brain said "oh you're talking on the phone- must be your mom! wait nope nope nope nope nope abort mission. this is not your mom. abort! abort!" lol.

As uncomfortable as those 11 minutes were, I am glad that I was able to actually apologize to her out loud for being a total jerk the other night. She didn't think I was, but that seems like BS.......... she was also pretty concerned that I wasn't going to come back again. Obviously I'm going to come back. There's no way I'm enough of an adult to arrange a call to tell her I'm not coming back lol

 

[UnicornSightings]

I appreciate the vote of confidence but I don't know if "great" is how I could qualify it lol. I made...

Yay!!!!! You did it!!!!!! F yeah!!! Super proud of you! Dude who cares if it was all messy. Life is all messy. People that are all perfect at things are boring. You did great and 11 minutes is huge! Think of how long you can hold your breath. Don’t actually do that now. You made it MUCH longer! I promise I’m not being sarcastic. Phones were invented by demons. You rocked it. And I love your humor about it all. :)

 

[hymnless]

Hahahaha thanks. I nearly didn't pick up the phone, so that was a good start. AND I didn't just hang up on her, I said "k. later" and hung up. So that counts as a full conversation, right? Right.

 

[UnicornSightings]

Hahahaha thanks. I nearly didn't pick up the phone, so that was a good start. AND I didn't just hang...

So great! And yeah, it absolutely counts! I had a really awkward session with a new t last night and barely made it in. Told myself I only had to stay 5 min lol. Ended up staying the entire time and tripping on my words and I drank a whole bottle (like a liter) of water in that time cause that’s what I do when I’m nervous. And taking big gulps of breath and shaking. We can do hard things, we just can’t do them elegantly lol!!

 

[hymnless]

Isn't interviewing new therapists the actual worst? I went through that a few months ago and it felt soul sucking lol

 

[UnicornSightings]

Not being able to focus on what the therapist replies makes it a tad difficult lol.

 

[hymnless]

Or you can think of it that if they're willing to repeat themselves session after session, they're probably a good fit! hahaha