Platitudes: Which Ones Make You Scream?

[Deaf Global Nomad]

One worker keeps saying: "You need to let it go..."
My response tends to be: "How?"

The same worker has said to me: "Only when you accept it, will you feel better..."
Me: "What do you mean by accept?"
Worker: "Do you acknowledge what has happened to you? Are you comfortable with what happened to you?"
Me: "yes" to the first question and "no" to the second.
Worker: "Have you accepted it yet?"
Me puzzled: "I guess not."

His solution to my fear of going places: "Meet me at the Mall of America. When you arrive I will text you where to find me. When you are done with that, then any other place will seem harmless."
Luckily, my therapist put a halt to that therapeutic intervention when he double checked with her.

Some sessions frustrate me so much that I am ready to be done and others are so helpful that I begin questioning my own sanity.

 

[Deaf Global Nomad]

One worker keeps saying: "You need to let it go..."
My response tends to be: "How?"

The same worker has said to me: "Only when you accept it, will you feel better..."
Me: "What do you mean by accept?"
Worker: "Do you acknowledge what has happened to you? Are you comfortable with what happened to you?"
Me: "yes" to the first question and "no" to the second.
Worker: "Have you accepted it yet?"
Me puzzled: "I guess not."

His solution to my fear of going places: "Meet me at the Mall of America. When you arrive I will text you where to find me. When you are done with that, then any other place will seem harmless."
Luckily, my therapist put a halt to that therapeutic intervention when he double checked with her.

Some sessions frustrate me so much that I am ready to be done and others are so helpful that I begin questioning my own sanity.

 

[LilacFaerie]

"You just have to try a little harder."
"If you believed in yourself."
"You're extremely smart/capable/ect.- the only reason this isn't working is because (enter something along the lines of ' you don't believe in yourself' or 'you don't really want it.)"

You you you.....geez, it's bad enough people suffer with PTSD, and then others come along and make them feel guilty and somehow responsible for their hardship. How cruel.

 

[ms spock]

Hope you feel cared for here Ms Spock.
I'm sorry you don't have anyone to give you a physical hug, so heres a cyber one...

Thanks for the cyber hug leweyoz,

I don't feel cared for at all at the moment.
Or maybe it is the care that is there for me is not going in at the moment.

My psychriatrist J cares for me. And my friend D cares of me. B cares for me.

I am ending a number of emotionally vampiric friendships, acquaintenceships and so forth it is hard. It is really hard I have to sit with the space. Sitting with the space is scary. My family might hit me or abuse me (not going to happen on the whole).

It is all changing. As a friend of mine would say "Change is Evil!" It doesn't feel that she cares about me - logically I know she is grieving the loss of her two dogs and cats. But it feels like she doesn't.

/end slight tangent.

 

[ms spock]

"doesnt he realise hes one of the lucky ones who came back?"

That person should be placed in to a rocket and flown in to the sun.

That is a barbaric thing to say to a war veteran!

 

[ms spock]

I don't know if these are platitudes but all of these types of phrases to people with PTSD are just hurtful and upsetting...

"you sound upset, you should talk to your Therapist"- really? so why would you start a conversation with me, if you really don't want to have a conversation at all?
"normal people aren't this angry, talk to someone" - I am TRYING to talk to you right now!!
"talk to someone" - I am talking to you, so listen!!
"maybe you should be on medication" - you pop xanax like their candy, what right do you have to tell me that? you are not my therapist or doctor!
"this isn't a normal reaction" -really? tell me what normal is? I would LOVE to know!
"don't let it get to you" - tell me how, and I'd gladly try.
"stop being so sensitive" - not an option, I am a sensitive person.
"is this part of your PTSD?" - because "normal" people can't have grievances or be upset... right
"you're not right, you need to go to a hospital" - really? just... f**k you.

Yes these are all very unhelpful platitudes in life, my life and your life.

They suck!

 

[CraftyCath]

Ms Spock is on a roll and I couldn't agree more! Well said everyone!

 

[jo may]

I know it's hard but things can only get better,
I know how you feel, I just wish the was something I could do,
PTSD huh, just somethiing they made up!!(that's family)
We all have problems, just some are stronger at coping with them.

 

[CraftyCath]

We all have problems, just some are stronger at coping with them.

Ah so we who have PTSD are weak people eh? I get the same thing jo may - drives me mad!

 

[ms spock]

"What doesnt kill you makes you stronger":speechless:

How I would love to believe that!

It would be great to be able to kill the people who say that type of crap but unfortunately it is illegal and fraught with so much paperwork. Back up Option Z.

 

[atl22]

"I did what I had to do at the time."

Really? You just had to get drunk and beat me? You just had to? Because there was some alien holding a raygun to your head that was only visible to drunk adults and not terrified children? Really?

I don't think so.

 

[jo may]

This one makes me laugh but want to scream at the same time.

It will all seem better in the morning!!

I'm like WTF so you trying to tell me PTSD is like having a 24 hour sickness bug, nice one:mad: