Please Help, I Need To Talk To Somone Who Understands

[lostsoul]

Hi,
I'm new to this so please bear with me.
Both me and my partner have PTSD, he suffers really bad with it he has it from combat, i am trying to control mine from a attack in august.
My problem is we live so far appart and when we get to see each other all i want is to be held by him and be with him and all he wants is to run back and hide (he has cut himself off from the world)
We love each other so much it hurts us both, anyone have any advice please??
I really need some help with this.

 

[cherryblossom]

I would firstly ask you whether you both have 'other' support? Therapists? Close family and friends that support you both independantly?

Then I would suggest that you are both very open with each other as to how you are feeling, and maybe discuss some 'ground rules', or 'boundaries', that help you both to be together, without hurting each other. It certainly sounds like a difficult situation for you both. It is possible for you both to manage PTSD, but it doesn't sound like either of you are quite there yet. You each have different needs, the only way would be to work out some sort of compromise.

 

[lostsoul]

We only have each other to talk to really, we completely trust each other and nobody else, he so desperately wants to be there for me and is great at trying.

 

[1966]

Hi lostsoul,
I can fully relate to what your going through, I suffer with combat PTSD and its taken me years to start opening up to people. I, like your partner cut myself off from the world for a long time and it takes alot of love and support to come out of that part of it. My major problem with the combat PTSD was not trusting anyone.. and I was and still am having bad flashbacks along with hyper vigilance. It must be really difficult trying to support someone when you have PTSD yourself. Do you have someone outside of your relationship who gives you support, as I would have thought that was a necessity. Feel free to message me if you want an insight into anything to do with combat PTSD.
Sean (yorkshire born and bred) x

 

[lostsoul]

Thing's have escelated so much this week and i am there for him, i called the people at hollybush house where he was recieving care and told them what was going on and they said they had a backlog and would get round to it when they can but things have really got to him more then ever as now he feels guilty because on friday night 2 people broke into my home and i have been seriosly beaten up this is not helping my ptsd at all and i'm trying to stay strong for him but atm feel like just giving up myself. it's all such a mess.
Vicky (also yorkshire born and bred)

 

[Marie E.]

Hope you get better LostSoul, that is an awful experience!!! (((Hugs)))