Childhood Please Help Me Stop The Police And My Husband Forcing A Prosecution

[Finchlet2]

Ok forcing was way to strong a word, pressuring would be more accurate but I work so hard to make my husband proud of me as no one has ever been proud of me before that when he implies or I get an inclination that he expects something from me my hand feels forced. I have already given extensive draining soul destroying evidence to the police about some of the incidents but cannot tell them anymore.
I cannot be her again. In their eyes I am letting so many potentiaĺ other victims down but I don't want this shit surrounding drowning suffocating so who are they to assume other potential victims would want to turn up the volume of their screaming stabbing ghosts?

They insist its fear keeping further victims which we don't even know exist coming forward but why won't they consider that it could be a logical rational insightful decision to leave the past and face the future desperate not to be forced fed their past.
They say I have to get the ring locked away as if it would make some huge difference to society but there are thousands of others to step into their shoes and people for them to hurt in prison cos we can't assume everyone who's in there deserves to be and in prison your trapped and i don't want anyone to be trapped with them besides they'll play the game get early release bitter and vengeful as well as sick and twisted.
Yes sociaty is infected and broken and I'm trying to build a bandage so husband most perfect stunning man please don't make me drown in sticky plasters.

 

[Dannyuk78]

hi,

Sorry you are having to face it all over again. Im a police officer and a suffer so if you feel like you want to talk it is all completly to hear and between the group or us.

Please dont feel like you have to stand in the dark on your own as we all have a torch or two

 

[SnowyLeopard]

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Please know that however YOU are feeling is valid and very important. Nobody is perfect, and you are allowed to have your own feelings about any decision without others making you feel pressured. I am proud of you for trying so hard to o what is right, but don't forget that something might not be right for you just because it is for someone else. I really hope this pain stops hurting you soon.

 

[Friday]

.To them, it's a case.

To you, it's your life.

They're minding their case.

You mind your life.

 

[Sideways]

You don't owe this to anyone. Yes, it's great when abuse victims are able to come forward, and it's even better when that results in a conviction. But you don't owe it to anyone.

If your man is half as great as you're saying, he'll understand, and he'll actually go one better, he'll support you, and what you need. Fighting for this cause is great, but you and your health, your recovery, your future (together) is number 1 right? So talk to him. Tell him about how you're feeling, how this is overwhelming. He'll be onside with you if he's a keeper.

Even if you do go ahead with this, it's gonna be hard work. You're gonna need him onside, supporting you, if you've got any chance of getting through this together. And if you can't do it, you don't need a reason, it's okay to say "I can't help anymore". You've spoken to the police, there's more than enough for anyone to be proud of in that alone. I certainly don't have the guts to go to the police, and I knew there were other victims. Hell, I couldn't even reach out to the other victims, let alone go to the police.

What you've already done is incredibly brave, and your man has ample to be proud of. You stop at any time you need. For what it's worth, I wouldn't want another victim destroying their life trying to save mine. Justice isn't on their head, they've been through enough. You've been through enough.

If he's really great, and I don't doubt that is, then talk to him. That's so important. You are allowed to control the way you participate in the police investigation, you are allowed to say 'enough'. If the tables were turned, and your partner was putting them through this to make you proud, you'd want them to talk to you, right?

 

[Finchlet2]

I hate hugs they terrify me but I want to hug you all so bad right now nobody panic though I can't reach through cyberspace p.s. how the he'll you all understood my erratic unstructured post is amazing lol

 

[Ronin]

now nobody panic

It's okay, we got around here there's 'hugs' as in thankfulness and warm feelings and gratitude and friendship and comraderie and all of that, and hugs as in gestures, and they're not the same thing. :sneaky:

 

[Suzetig]

You don't need to do anything you don't want to do. This is your life, your private, personal, actual life and you have no duty or responsibility to try and prevent what someone else may or may not do to others.

If you don't want to do it, don't do it.

 

[Sunshineturtle]

Ok forcing was way to strong a word, pressuring would be more accurate but I work so hard to make my h...

So, i hear what you are saying.. it's a group that is organized and hurt you.. don't let another group, albeit a well intentioned one, try and hurt you in a different way. If you are not able to prosecute, don't. That is your decision. Although I don't think they are trying to hurt you intentionally, sometimes it is hard for people to understand and seperate from what they perceive as justice. Do what you feel is right and safe, and surviveable for you... no one else. Stay strong.

 

[Gs172003]

I hate hugs they terrify me but I want to hug you all so bad right now nobody panic though I can't rea...

You do what is right for you.

 

[Freedomfighter]

.To them, it's a case.

To you, it's your life.

They're minding their case.

You mind your life.[/QU...

Right on

 

[Freedomfighter]

So, i hear what you are saying.. it's a group that is organized and hurt you.. don't let another...

Great advice, you know a thing or two about these situations, dont you?