PO'd at Family Reactions

[becvan]

Don't mind at all!

That is what I thought too. By removing myself from the emotional disappointment, I am protecting myself. I'm also being reasonable. After almost 33 years.. they haven't attempted to try or change. I've given them the information and the tools, they choose what they do with it. I need to choose what is healthy for me.

yeah, I thought he was rather wrong too. He's just trying to make excuses to protect himself from his responsiblity in this. It's suprising really. Normally he's good about responsiblity stuff.. but maybe knowing that his daughter has permanment damage from it is too much. No idea, nor am I going to worry about it.

I think my support system (here, myself and my closest freinds) is actually rather excellent. Quality vs. quantity! :biggrin:

bec

 

[waynes]

Can identify

My wife (Marilyn) has tryed to talk to her Mom about the things that happened to her. She is in complete denial! "oh, your Dad and brothers could never have done such things."
Well, I may have stepped in the sh!t on this one, but her Mom has been trying to get in contact with her since she went into the hospital. She made the mistake of contacting me. Being the a$$hole that I can be I refused to tell her what was going on.... She pushed alittle too hard, however...
When she asked me, "well what has Marilyn done now?"I popped my cork!! I told her that Marilyn had done nothing, that it was done to her!!! I told them that it was time that they addmit that this trauma did happen, and that they were either going to be part of the healing or they are part of the problem...
Im very concrete operational in my thinking. To me there are no grey areas. Things are cut and dryed. These people are either going to be supportive, or all Hell is going to break loose. She in in the hospital from interaction with these people over the years and right now I can confront these people with out her being caught in the middle. :stupid:
By not accepting the fact that she was abused they invalidate every feeling that she has from her symptoms. She loves her Mom, and everything goes just peachy as long as it is kept on a superficial level. As soon as Marilyn tries to talk about what bothers her it over... Its all her fault!!
Well, not this time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:angry-fla

P.O.ed in MO

 

[Thornbird]

I told my family what I was going through. They didn't seem to care about it. The more I tried to explain, the less they listened. My son is the only one who really understands what I have gone through. I thank God he is old enough to understand. For almost 10 years I kept it all inside. Just lately, I have forced myself to start talking about all of it. Needless to say, I have walked away from most of my family.