Posers And Apologists

[Recovery4Me]

@anthony
I do not know if you have this in your country so I am offering the data. In the US, reverse mortgage is available for those in such a situation (the spare 100,000 done). He would not be spending his money, his Mom would have the cash needed from the home (and still be able to live there during her life time) and he could live elsewhere while a licensed care provider assisted Mom...worry free. After all it would be her assets taking care of her needs with no loss due to taxes after the sale.

http://portal.hud.gov/hudportal/HUD?src=/program_offices/housing/sfh/hecm/hecmhome

Home Equity Conversion Mortgages for Seniors

 

[Bill Dickerson]

Given that you're frustrated and lashing out, and that your general demeanor reads (at least to me) as fairly argumentative across the board are you surprised? I'd add to that a pretty large category on this board that will be too afraid to even try to contribute something to this discussion, since your attitude is such.

I'll argue with a brick wall if it's a good exchange of ideas.

Probably apologists to you but possibly also posers.

An apologist response would go something like "Sorry you got PTSD let me give you hugs and kisses XOXO". As far as posers I seriously think it's college kids working a Psych 101 course. I do see and appreciate others responses.

Uhm anyone who knows anything about pop culture

I have no idea if you know pop culture or not.

Another thing, do you live on the planet earth? [Serious question!] Anyone who has functioned in society for even FIVE minutes knows that appearances are VERY influential. So like I said, keep your nasty looking avatar. See how far that gets you....

I will keep it and it baffles me how it could scare you so bad you don't respond. I think you should go back and read the origins of the Hulk and the struggles the man encounters from which he explodes. I think it goes to the origins of PTSD and the basic instincts that cause it.

Oh, and your answer to your other post? Get your ass out of bed, stop sleeping your life away, and DO SOMETHING. I can pretty much guarantee that your SSDI is a LOT larger than my SSDI because I didn't work that much and went on disability when I was in my 20's. Stop acting like you're a prisoner of your family and that you'll wither up and die without your mother's support. You're going to have to function somehow once she's gone, so why not PRACTICE that now? If she's draining away all of your financial resources and taking away your future, then its time for your bitchy sister to step up to the g'damn plate and help take care of her. There are always other options but you just want to cry when your mommy doesn't do what you want her to do. Please. [Was this the bluntness you were looking for?]

Yes ..Yes I do like the bluntness. There are some salient points in your last heart felt tirade. It's much better than "hope you feel better hugs and kisses."

Can you use her failing health to obtain proxy over her finances and make such decisions for her, before it is too late?

She might outlive me so it's not really an option. I hope it's not needed for a long long time. She just has the tenacity of a mule and the combativeness of lets see....a pissed Roo.

As far as pissing off and insulting everybody. Doesn't bother me it use to be part of my old job. I was just surprised I touched so many nerves.

 

[digger]

An apologist response would go something like "Sorry you got PTSD let me give you hugs and kisses XOXO".

An apologist wouldn't actually respond that way...
Dead Link Removed

You can add 'pendants' to your hit list now too ;)

 

[Bill Dickerson]

Oy Vey now I've got an English person giving me English lesson. LOL

English isn't my first language. My mother tongue is Southern Redneck.

What would be an appropriate tag/name/slang/reference?

 

[StarChild]

add 'pendants' to

I don't understand what does that mean @digger? Or did you want to write "pedants"?

 

[Tanishq]

Hello @Bill Dickerson Again!

You know I have something more to add, they are not pissed. They are actually trying to make different opinion. Try to look at posters(posters in this thread) posting history, you will see the difference. They are not feeling themselves in this thread for some reason.

It is like asking soccer players to be hockey players. Hence the total different opinions and you think they are angry where they aren't.

"hope you feel better hugs and kisses."

Actually it's the other way works better. Sometimes you don't have speak at all, just being there, hugging and kisses can uplift you. Unfortunately people underestimate the power of just being together.

I am man and hugs work better for me. Not sure why but I believe in love.

 

[Recovery4Me]

Saw this pix and thought of your avatar & you putting yourself on the hot seat.
Thought some humor could be used...:clown: within the thread.

 

[Tanishq]

:eek:

As far as pissing off and insulting everybody. Doesn't bother me it use to be part of my old job.

Excuse me, you mean you used to piss off/insult people in your old job? What do you mean it used to be part of your old job? or are you trying to say people used to get frustrated with you?

I am just confused. Sorry, so I felt better I ask and make sure.

English isn't my first language either. :)

 

[digger]

Or did you want to write "pedants"?

LOL!! Yes :roflmao:

 

[digger]

What would be an appropriate tag/name/slang/reference?

How about something along the lines of 'people who gave their time and energy to try and reach out to me when I was hurting' .... I know it doesn't roll off the tongue quite so easily but, hey.

 

[Bill Dickerson]

Excuse me, you mean you used to piss off/insult people in your old job? What do you mean it used to be part of your old job? or are you trying to say people used to get frustrated with you?

I am just confused. Sorry, so I felt better I ask and make sure.

When you write people speeding tickets or bust their door down, take their dope, take their money, and then them to jail it has a tendency to make some a little put out with you. Wasn't personal just taking care of business. I would often suggest after being cursed at for a while that I had heard all that before. I would suggest if there was anything new or combinations that I hadn't heard before it would make for a more entertaining day. I always appreciated an interesting turn of a phrase. Being called an F***ing A$$hole over and over for 20 minute is just plain boring.

Thought some humor could be used...:clown: within the thread.

What! Obviously my dark and dry sense of humor doesn't come across well in the forum. I'll have to try harder.

 

[scout86]

I think one half of the forum is pissed and the other half is insulted.

Not quite. I'm neither of those.

I hope the meeting on Mon helps. My T & I have talked, a number of times (believe it or not) about dealing with older relatives and the changes they might be going through in their living situations. He had some interesting ideas.

There's a "thing" that I do once in awhile. A good and insightful friend used to call it "spinning your wheels". He was referring to a state where I focus on the problem, not on finding workable solutions. All that accomplishes is to build the problem to a bigger and bigger "thing" in my mind. Quite often Bill, it seems like that's what you're doing. You're going round and round about the things that aren't happening and won't happen and can't happen. It seems like it would be more useful to focus on what you, yourself, can actually do and control. That's just me. I suppose you'll have reasons why I'm wrong. I say that because I haven't really noticed you taking anything anyone has said and responding with "Oh. Never thought of that. Good idea." or anything else positive. Could be that's because no one has come up with anything worthwhile. Could be your mind set too. Could be something else.

If I were in your position, I think I would try to focus on what I can do, now, all on my own, with my own resources and not wait for mom. I would find some place to live, close to mom, if that's desirable, that was mine, and let her worry about making her own choices. Even if we could do something else together that seems like it would be better. I might start with "Mom, the uncertainty of our housing situation is driving me nuts and I need to do something about it for my own peace of mind. Here's what I'm thinking, what are you thinking?

Having said that, I'll add that I'm hardly an authority on working stuff like this out. In my biological family there's not much chance that anyone is particularly interested in anything I have to say, which does make it a lot easier to just go my own way.