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Pot - Part 2

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Casey_03

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I posted a few days ago about my family members all coming over to smoke pot in our home with my newborn present. Well, there's been a development. The first time they smoked, it was presented to me as if it was just a one-time thing, and I told them my concerns and made it clear I wanted them to smoke outside.

That night, they smoked in the house and lied and told me they'd done it outside. I tried to let it go, thinking that if it was just a one-time thing, maybe it'll be fine.

Well now I've learned that it's a nightly thing and they did it last night -- and this time with my sister present. My sister, with whom I shared my concerns about the pot being around the baby. Not only did they all smoke last night, they smoked right next to the window to my room (which is not open, but is ventilated because there is an AC unit in there that lets all the air from outside in). The baby's crib is right under that window. So they all smoked there and didn't give a damn about the baby, or about the fact that I'd explicitly told them this concerns me and i don't want it to become an everyday thing.

Now my aunt tells me that "of course" it will be an everyday thing, and why would I think it was a one-time thing?

I realize the secondhand smoke is unlikely to do much damage. My problem, at this point, is that no one is respecting me wishes or my concerns, and it makes me wonder what else they are willing to do around the house and then hide from me? If i've explicitly said i don't want that stuff around my baby, and they do it anyway .... to me, that just means they don't care too much about the baby.

I realize I probably sound like i'm overreacting, but this really disturbs me and I have nowhere to go. The only option would be to call the police.
 
They need to be respectful and get the hell outside. Lazy buggers. Do they have a vehicle they can move to? Or a shed?
Second hand smoke, regardless of its source is harmful. I hope they smarten up. Sorry they're being jerks.
 
You are def not overreacting. This is serious concerns you bring up.
Is there any way for you to lessen the contact with them? Tell them they are not welcome to your house cause of the smoking?
Sending you good thoughts.
 
Tell your sister you are switching rooms?

I don't know why, I just have this feeling that underplaying will get you farther than trying to fight. So they want to smoke, OK - fine; you need to get into a room that isn't in the driftway of the smoke.

Possible?
 
How long are these people going to be around anyway? Don't they have 'real l lives'? I'm trying to imagine a scenario where Grandma dies and everyone descends on her house for an extended period of time. I'm my experience, someone dies & extended family might show for a few days, to handle the funeral. Then they leave. How long are they planning on staying?

Not that that matters when it comes to the smoking. Although, in your situation, it would help me to know there was an end date.
 
@joeylittle There's no other room to move into now. They've occupied all of them. @scout86 They'll be here for several more weeks, and then some of these same family members will likely move here permanently (or at least long-term, until the house is sold). One of them is unemployed, another is on leave from work, and several others who have been smoking live in the area and aren't living here but come over here quite a bit. Even once they leave in a few weeks, they'll be back again a few weeks later because there's a ton of stuff that needs sorting in the house (that i can't do).

I am wondering if they are just trying to drive me out. That or they are completely oblivious and inconsiderate.


If they hold up their end of the bargain and give me my inheritance money, I can move out. I'm already dreaming of it. There's a nice neighborhood on the outskirts of the city. Very safe, great area, tons of places for kids. All i can do at this point is look towards that goal and hope it comes sooner rather than later.
 
I'm mad at your relatives. You were right about them and why you didn't want to return here to them. I don't blame you for being so frustrated.
 
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