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ms spock
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I would respectfully disagree that you have a talent for being confused. You are precise. You have an inquiring and detailed mind. You tease out nuances and are present with those nuances. This is a very good skill set to have. I am hoping to grow more in that direction.
I don't find you argumentative at all @DharmaGirl. And even if I did that is not necessarily a bad thing - we write, debate, argue, share as part of being a community. People rarely agree on things that are important and personal, as long as we endeavour to respect and be kind to others, then I think we are doing okay. And if we make mistakes, then we say sorry.
This is most sensible. I have asked people questions when I really don't know and I must be missing something that is a big obvious connection as people often don't respond to my questions or reply to a minor part of the question.
I don't know about that! I am an opinionated person who loves to passionately debate and pull things apart. (I am the eldest of six and bossy and opinionated by nature - :D so of course I have to comment. It is genetics as well as nature!) What works for me or is my understanding might not be relevant to anyone else on our forum, but it also might be. I hope so, from time to time. Occasionally I get feedback that this is so, and that is a good feeling.
I think that your style of questioning (which you criticise above) and explaining enabled me to tune into you and thus we had those (what I thought were) profound type of conversations. I thought that was special and also productive.
Depending on where we are on the spectrum - well it will inform our mindfulness practice, but being very kind to the beginners is very important, otherwise they can get stuck in depressive rumination and feel like failures and judge themselves so though I am still very much learning it all myself - I do get that little bit. Hopefully it is helpful to a few other people.
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