Psychologist asking to talk to someone from group

[Teamwork]

Today when i had my appointment it was briefly discussed that I message someone from a support group I attend. he leads the group and helps me quite a bit when having bad flashbacks at home, via messenger. Anyway the psychologist said he would like to talk to him. not even sure if he asked, like can I talk to him more like it came out as I want to talk to him give him my number. so what potentially can the psychologist say? And how will I even know what they discuss? i’m On the fence a bit more because information is lacking. It happened fairly quickly at sessions end so there was no time to say what will you say to him or even why? So of course I’m a little weirded out by this. Anyone have experience with therapist talking to outside people that you relate to? Does it have a good outcome?

 

[AliciaEff]

Can't say that I've really had this experience, sorry. At my request, my therapist allowed my (then) boyfriend into a session because my trauma was affecting our relationship, but that's as close as I have come. Definitely ask your therapist what will be discussed. If he requests to hear from this person, he still needs to follow confidentiality laws unless you explicitly (and in writing, most times) indicate that he can tell this person about your sessions. I hope that helps.

 

[Chris-duck]

I've had Ts offer to speak to people if I've mentioned that my shit is impacting on our relationship. But it's been offered in a way where it's been for their/my benefit. I dunno if I'm misunderstanding but from your post it sounds more like he wants to talk to him for info? I'd ask your psychologist his reasoning n hopefully that puts your mind at ease

 

[Justmehere]

Not that unusual to offer to do. You don’t have to agree to do it until you understand more, and only if you want to agree to it.

 

[Teamwork]

I've had Ts offer to speak to people if I've mentioned that my shit is impacting on our relationship. But it's been offered in a way where it's been for their/my benefit. I dunno if I'm misunderstanding but from your post it sounds more like he wants to talk to him for info? I'd ask your psychologist his reasoning n hopefully that puts your mind at ease

Yes I was sharing about the ability to message this person Nd he said he wanted to talk to him, like he was eager about that.

 

[Mach123]

You didn't agree yet so it's not an issue now. When you go back in say "I didn't do it because I want to talk to you some more about it." Then you can say yes or no or I'll think that one over before anything happens. : )

 

[Justmehere]

Coordination of care can be tremendously useful. You can ask him about what he would share if you gave permission for hike to talk to the support group leader, and the limits of what he shares and doesn’t share. He should be able to tell you specifically what he would share and not share.

I have had therapists and treatment providers and others share info. I’ve also said no to sharing information. Both have been beneficial.

 

[Teamwork]

Coordination of care can be tremendously useful. You can ask him about what he would share if you gave permission for hike to talk to the support group leader, and the limits of what he shares and doesn’t share. He should be able to tell you specifically what he would share and not share.

I have had therapists and treatment providers and others share info. I’ve also said no to sharing information. Both have been beneficial.

I know from past experience when he had to fill in the therapy report for criminal injuries he does not openly share it. He writes it and sends it. I have to be on him to get it from him. It’s not that he’s not upfront but I don’t think he knows what it feels like to me to not be involved in what he tells or writes to someone else about me.

 

[grit]

sometimes I am shocked to hear professional people who do not have the basic courtesy to ensure the client understands processes. This just creates unnecessary anxiety rather than if the therapist just explain, hey Suzanne, I would like to call Jack and discuss about a, b and c and hope this is OK with you? Do you have any reservation? and how would you like me to contact via phone or email etc.

Put the client in charge of their lives!

It is just common courtesy.

I am sorry you are double guessing and confused about this. I hope you have the strength to say, please tell me what your plans are about talking to my group leader.

Good luck