General PTSD And Isolation

[blackpearl]

I get the feeling he's isolating himself from me.

He was attentive before and excited to see me always, so communicative. Now, it's the opposite.

At times like this it is best to leave him alone. If you read more about the symptoms and listen to his words you may understand more.. Take notice to his experiences and try to understand his feelings, not your own if you truly care.

I'm having a really hard time trying to understand his behavior. I think it's me he's not into anymore .. alot goes thru my mind. Why do sufferers do this ? Isolate ? Could this be what he's doing ?

My recommendation is to work on your own problems first as he has to work on his.

I'm sorry, I just have to say how I see it from my point of view. PTSD is not about you and is not personal against you.

 

[blackpearl]

I'm new to all of this. I'm just trying to make sense and understand what PTSD is and what it is doing to him.

But .. I care deeply for this man and I wish I could help him but I know that I can't. Perhaps, I'm childish for checking his Facebook but for now, that's all I have in order to know he's doing well, except for now which apparently he isn't.

No, it's more like ridiculous of you to try to save someone if you can't handle 4 days of not hearing from him *LOL* What exactly is the problem ?? ?
Do something else to feel good about your self, like caring a puppy or something like that may do you better ? They are cute and strong if you buy a bulldog.

 

[blackpearl]

One more thing.

It's not healthy to be curious about something that is only going to hurt you. We do notice who is capable to take pressure or not. We need strong people to support us, not people who just wants to feel what we feel. That's the part where you fail, when you yet haven't experienced a **** concerning this. If you happen to feel everything he does the usual reaction is that you would wish to ever met him at all.

I'm not mad or anything, just a bit frustrated concerning those who just wants to feel the thrill around what they see mysterious. I can tell you right now that you will not find nothing else than fear, sadness and ashes in bottom of his soul. Do you really want to experience it your self !? If you are tend to get close you will not feel that distance and only get hurt so I just hope you will find something else that thrills you. Don't play games with this, just don't.

 

[amethist]

Hi Blackpearl

Some1sangel was asking a relevant question, as a new carer at that time, to the forum she was trying to understand and learn more of how PTSd effected sufferers and why they sometimes react as they do.

As this thread is now over a year old, she probably has learned a lot more of how PTSD effects sufferers daily.

Carers don't play games with sufferers, and to suggest she gets a puppy instead is rather insulting to say the least. Maybe if you re read what you have posted from a carers point of view, you will understand what I mean by that.

We are all here to help each other as best we can.

Amethist

 

[blackpearl]

I'm sorry.

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't think being overly-empathetic is frequently the problem for most people. If they're kind enough to be so, I'm sure they mean well.

It takes awfully forgiving/ patient people to be so-called 'carers', I think, and it takes a 'sufferer' willing to face what they do to others and take responsibilty for managing it to not cause them heartache.
JMHO

 

[blackpearl]

I understand that the carer use to have the will to be there for the sufferer but people are so different. I only gave my own point of view. She would for example not have helped me... She asked the sufferer, I'm only one of those.

I'm not here to help anybody but my self for the moment. Of course I support as best I can, but I have no energy to overload my brain to anything then I would be worse again. I'll not go in to this I sense it will go wrong for me today so...

 

[blackpearl]

I've re read now. Well yes, my irony was not that kind or necessary perhaps.

Dealing with a PTSD Sufferer often takes more than the carer can imagine.

 

[Nicolette]

Blackpearl, you are in the Carers section and have overstepped the line. It is not your place to come in here and stamp all over someone who is genuinely trying to learn about PTSD and how best to help their Sufferer. Please either be respectful when you post here or stay out of this section as, to me, your posts are that of an angry PTSD Sufferer who views Carers' as selfish when the illness itself is what is truly selfish.

I'm not here to help anybody but my self for the moment. Of course I support as best I can, but I have no energy to overload my brain to anything then I would be worse again. I'll not go in to this I sense it will go wrong for me today so...

Blackpearl, what you have just written is a sign you should take a break from the forum and not post in sections where you cannot participate in an appropriate manner.

 

[blackpearl]

to me, your posts are that of an angry PTSD Sufferer who views Carers' as selfish when the illness itself is what is truly selfish.

I was not that mad before you wrote that one.
For me PTSD is NOT selfish in any way. It's an natural effect due to stress in abnormal proportions. Like the sufferer would not have the right to suffer. But I'm glad that I'm so much stronger today that your words didn't kill me here while I was banned that day !

Blackpearl, what you have just written is a sign you should take a break from the forum and not post in sections where you cannot participate in an appropriate manner.

I want to tell you that I would have done that in FIVE MINUTES if you have not banned me. But I have no other complains about this. I understand and am aware of that I attacked her and that it was wrong of me to do so. Just know that punishing like you did is not doing any better.

Thank you

 

[spero]

It is hard to have PTSD because the symptoms often come and go. For myself, sometimes I can go out and do 'normal' things and other times I cannot, so I often make excuses as to why I can't. I get really anxious even if I want to do things and feel really guilty when I don't follow through, which is also why I do not make plans anymore. I have isolated to the point where I do not have friends even though I would love to.

 

[AvoidanceRulez]

He wasnt isolating himself from u...he was just isolating himself. Trust me, there's a difference. I have been with my sig other for 6 years and still I could cut ties, move far away and start anew as if I never met him. Those that suffer from PTSD have experienced serious trauma(s) that most only read about in fictional books.