Relationship Ptsd And My Relationship: Am I Doing The Right Thing?

[Faith1234]

Ok so I went to my first therapy appointment for myself and she gave me some good advice..
She told me my son and myself should go back home and just give him space while we are all in the same home. She said to focus on just being myself and keep busy doing stuff with my son etc... I came home after the therapy appointment on my lunch and made something to eat and had to quickly leave, but I did tell him I went to the appointment and that it went well.
I gave him a hug and a smile and then I had to go back to work.
Although I do have a question... I have been home for the past 2 days and I have made dinner both night etc.. But he has spent the whole time down stairs playing video games, he came up to grab a plate to eat and then took his plate down stairs to eat and continue playing video games. I have fallen asleep both night just laying in bed while doing crossword puzzle's. I did notice when I woke up the light was off and my crossword puzzle book was on the night stand and my pen, I know he had come in and grabbed the book and pen from my hand and put it on the table for me and turned out the lights.
But back to my question... Is it not a good idea right now to have a little bit of stability, family time? Like a compromise...
Eating dinner every night together at the dinner table like we use to instead of him just taking a plate down stairs then spending the rest of the night down stairs? Having a game night once a week just doing something as a family. Just some kind of normal family routines, but a the same time I don't want to be asking for to much, but asking if there can be some kind of normal family routines would be nice and it wouldn't feel like me and my son are totally not shut out..
Thank you for all your help.

 

[Faith1234]

He told me 2 days ago that he feels pressured, in which I apologized to him cause I never want him to feel that way. So I took a step back and I have not talked about family, relationship, nothing.. Just walked around just doing my own thing while he was down stairs playing video games.

 

[Deadman]

I like your therapists idea. I know when I was at my worst I took some comfort in seeing others with a normal routine even if I felt completely disconnected from those same people.

I can't tell you how your guy will react but I do know how I would have reacted. I would have complied but it would have been grudgingly, and resentfully, like a sulky teenager.

I wish you continued progress :)

 

[Faith1234]

Hmm.. ok then I wont ask him right now, its just hard with a 9 yr old that wants some kind of interaction with him. I can handle it better than my 9 yr old does. So I just thought maybe just asking for eating a the dinner table and maybe one game night wouldn't be that big of a request. But I wont do that right now.. He goes to his first therapy appointment this Friday, so we will see how it goes. Just trying to satisfy his needs along with my sons. Thank you for your response. :)

 

[Deadman]

I didn't realize your SO hadn't even gone to his first therapy session yet. I really have to say I have great respect for what you are doing.

 

[Faith1234]

Thank you, it helps getting on here and getting feed back and going to therapy myself.
But it certainly is not easy having a child that doesn't understand and trying to keep him busy and being pregnant, but I keep thinking positive and having faith..