PTSD and The Loss of My Twin Babies

[sunnydaze]

Dawn,
Yes, I got your message also. I was wondering how you came across your post name. Your babies names, how precious. I know in this forum, I am suppose to upbuild you and not dwell on the negative. However, I need to get over the shock that I feel for you. I again certainly have not been able to get you off my mind nor think of my own problems. May you find some comfort in knowing God has not forgotten them as you will neither.
sunnydaze:eek:

 

[lolabrigitta]

Sorry for your loss

I am so sorry for your loss.


My husband had bad reactions to all meds and even tried a natural herb called Relora....this made him worse.......now he is on 5htp . This evens his moods. I am not sure if you can get that in the U.S.A. but you can check your drug stores and do online research. Hope this helps.

Lolabrigitta

 

[sunnydaze]

Dawn,
I tried to send you a 2nd pm but it wouldn't go through so I am posting it live.
Dawn,
I had 2 guiena pigs that lasted for 5 and 6 years. They died last year 4 days apart. This is what my husband and I turned to after the lost of his son was little critters that relied on us totally for survival. We spent quite abit of money on them buying them things just like a child. The one I dressed up in dresses and sun bonnets. Now we have a dog that we dress up and she totally loves it and we do too. It's a shame when you have to dress up your pets to get attention but it works. My dog is my baby and I don't know what I would do w/o her. I am to old to bear babies so pets are my babies. I have a 3 year old grandson also, he makes my day when I get to have him over. My grandson and dog is how I survive after all my traumas I have been through.
Please keep in touch, if there is anything I can say to help you, I am here for you.
sunnydaze

 

[graebrahm]

Lolabrigitta - I have not heard of this one and have been looking online. I can get it here in the states and think it would be worth a try. Do you know how much a day your husband is taking of the 5HTP? Just curious. Thanks.

 

[sunnydaze]

Gram,
You made me laugh when you talked about cooking your pigs. I hope your day has been a good day for you. I re-read the post of your 3 year old picking up on bits and pieces what she overheard of her bro and sis. Kids are smarter than we tend to give them credit for.
My 3 year old grandson was taught when there is a fire or smell smoke to run out of the house. Last night he did as was told. My daughters house caught fire. It wasn't a bad fire due to the quick reaction of my son-in-law and the 3 year old yelling for daddy to get out of the house. Being a gas dryer the house could have blown up. Lint caught behind the trap. Taught me a lesson to vacuum out once in awhile. I am very tired as I didn't much sleep last night and mentally drained but grateful it could have been much worse.
Take care,
sunnydaze

 

[graebrahm]

Sunny - I saw your post about the dryer. It scared me and when I left the house today my husband had something in the dryer with it running and I turned it off. Another thing to be careful of with the dryer if you use fabric softener sheets is that the softener can clog the mesh in the removeable filter. The heat "melts" the softener into the clothing and into the mesh as well. Take it out and run it under water and more than likely the water will pool on top of the mesh like it was solid instead of mesh. Just take a brush and soap and wash/rinse it until the water runs right through the mesh like it should. Thank God for little children.
I have seen some of your other posts as well and can see where a situation like mine could really hit home for what you have been through. When I delivered my second pregnancy (baby #3-TG) the nurses were even more amazing than at my first delivery - if that is even possible. They told me that they specifically remembered me when I delivered my twins because of what they see - so much heartache - that here was a couple that really, really wanted these babies and were so happy. They were thrilled to see two babies going home to a good family situation. When they heard I was delivering after the accident - they rolled out the red carpet at the hospital (so to speak). They were happy that we had another miracle.
I can't understand people treating anybody poorly especially an innocent child. It must cause you so much pain and confusion. Many things in this world don't make sense, we have to do our best to make sense out of them - if at all possible. Proud to have you as a friend - Sunny...

 

[sunnydaze]

Dawn
Thanks so much for the encouraging words and the tip of fabric softner sheets. I use to repair washers and dryers and the only tip about them was shared with me was to only use 1/2. If you use liquid softner use half of what is recommended. My daughter and son-in-law use sheets like they are going out of style. I will pass this on to them.
Yes, I have lived a very trouble life but do enjoy trying to help others so I hope I can be helpful to some on this forum and ease their pain even if it just alittle bit. This distracts me from my own problems and thoughts.
I am still abit dazed about what happened @ my daughters house but am blessed they are alive and nothing serious came out of it.
It took me many years to get pregnant w/ my daughter and I am grateful I have her.
You were truly blessed by having your 3rd child a little girl. They are so cute at that age.
Have a good day
sunnydaze