Ptsd, Anger And An Ex-wife

[reddevil1111]

Think Crafty. She no longer see's you as a provider,lover or friend. Like a black widow, now you must die.
If you suspect or have even the smallest shread of thought that something is up ....it is. Protect yourself. Brian has some real solid suggestions IMO. Think of this as a form of combat. You cant allow emoiitions to block you from doing duty. Take every fair and unfair advantage. Record EVERYTHING. Make notes of every contact...date time what happened.
If you dont need the info for help in court thats great. But if you do....you wont be caught with your pants down.
Brian, very solid info! you rock!

 

[K-9 Al]

Thanks brothers. I really appreciate you guys standing with me and helping me out.

 

[Brian Jones]

Thanks brothers. I really appreciate you guys standing with me and helping me out.

Anytime brother!
I just finished up 8 years going through court fights with my cracked out exwife to make sure my kids actually have a chance at being something other than they see in their mother. Even now the only thing keeping her away is the sealed court papers that would be opened if she decides she wants to go back to court which would mean the DEFACs would get very interested in the daughter she had a few weeks back. Thats what I mean about the males not getting a good fair shake when it comes to custody. I learned the hard way about record keeping. It is hard and it sucks at times but tends to be well worth it later on. Reddevil said it very well saying it was combat, it really is. The only thing to really keep in mind is that the kid(s) see alot more than you would ever think they would. I kept this to a minimum by keeping my kids as informed as I could with what was going on. It actually worked in my favor when their mother would lie to them. I dont think that I would suggest that to everyone as some kids may not be able to handle that well but it was important to me that the kids knew what was going on.

 

[abnvet]

Al, hope all goes well for you. Went through similar with my ex and daughter. Daughter is now 19 and understands my motives. I created memories of her and I and it's these memories that she remembers most. Hang in there. HOOAH!

 

[Docrobert82]

I could handle my son being with me. My son and my service dog is why im still alive. My ex knows that im moving to Michigan once the medical retirement goes through. Shes tryign to make me appear to be,. "a crazy vet with PTSD" She knows exactly how to push my buttons. She doesnt have to curse or yell..she knows how to awaken the beast. I pleaded with her over the phone (during that conversation) to stop..please stop pushing me. Bascially she set me up to freak out and is now trying to paint me as an evil villian. Bullshit is what it is. Her ass never went "over there" and has no idea what its like. Shes never researched anything or understands PTSD. She frankly dpoesnt care and claims that i use it as an excuse. Which is bullshit as well. I have emails from other arquments where i pleaded to her to stop treating me like a POS and start workign with each other for the benefit of our three year old son.

Hey man, I have an ex that is the same way. I hope things have gotten better for you and that your getting time with your son.

Best of luck,

Robert