LittleHawk
New Here
Hi all,
I was in a great relationship for almost 11 years. During that time, my partner was doting, loving, supportive, loyal and a joy to be with. When her grandmother died last year, she started having nightmares of a brutal rape that she had been victim of at the aged of 17 (this was after her stepfather had already been molsting her from the age of 12). At the samde time, she became very close with a friend of hers from work. Although the two of them had worked together for over a year, this co-worker suddenly became the focus of my partner. She even talked me into letting the woman move in and from that day forward, they spent every waking moment together....even working overtime and sharing a hotel room for a month. She swore the entire time that she was not cheating and that the friendship was based on the fact that this woman had had a traumatic childhood as well (they even went to the same therapist). They both insisted that it was purely platonic. They started club-hopping, (although my partner was 39), got tattoos and piercings together, my partner CO-SIGNED on a motorcycle loan for this bitch and never asked her to pay any bills, although she was living with us. My partner plastered pictures of her and this woman all over her Facebook page. The woman left her dog at our house and I was left to care for it. When she moved her shit in, she left it sitting in our dining room in boxes and after asking them repeatedly to PLEASE move the shit upstairs and being ignored, I had one of the neighbors help me and just did it myself. I have never been so humiliated and depressed in my life and when my partner and I broke up on January 3rd, I attempted suicide. She screamed at me the entire way to the hospital, saying that she "had enough shit she was dealing with and then I have to go and do something this selfish just to give her one more thing to stress about". She then left me alone in the hospital and I had to call her to come pick me up the next day (she was having lunch with the roommate and it took her over an hour to come get me).
She has, to this day, sworn that the relationship was platonic and that the PTSD was to blame for all of her inappropriate behavior. The room mate moved out in July and my ex-partner immediately started dating an ex-girlfriend of hers.
As a sidenote, I am medically disabled and unable to work, yet my ex had no qualms about kicking me to the curb. I drove in a UHaul, alone, 700 miles to live with my parents. I had 400.00 bucks in my pocket. My ex stayed in the 5-bedroom, 3-bath house (3900 square feet, worth about 180 grand) and, in SPITE of the PTSD, has maintained her relationship with her ex and managed to keep her position as a Quality Control Inspector for the Mechanics for a major airline.
My question is, had anything similar happened to anyone else here? Or did my ex just get sick of me and use PTSD as a crutch to get out? I would appreciate any and ALL feedback! Thanks so much-I hope all of you are doing well.
I was in a great relationship for almost 11 years. During that time, my partner was doting, loving, supportive, loyal and a joy to be with. When her grandmother died last year, she started having nightmares of a brutal rape that she had been victim of at the aged of 17 (this was after her stepfather had already been molsting her from the age of 12). At the samde time, she became very close with a friend of hers from work. Although the two of them had worked together for over a year, this co-worker suddenly became the focus of my partner. She even talked me into letting the woman move in and from that day forward, they spent every waking moment together....even working overtime and sharing a hotel room for a month. She swore the entire time that she was not cheating and that the friendship was based on the fact that this woman had had a traumatic childhood as well (they even went to the same therapist). They both insisted that it was purely platonic. They started club-hopping, (although my partner was 39), got tattoos and piercings together, my partner CO-SIGNED on a motorcycle loan for this bitch and never asked her to pay any bills, although she was living with us. My partner plastered pictures of her and this woman all over her Facebook page. The woman left her dog at our house and I was left to care for it. When she moved her shit in, she left it sitting in our dining room in boxes and after asking them repeatedly to PLEASE move the shit upstairs and being ignored, I had one of the neighbors help me and just did it myself. I have never been so humiliated and depressed in my life and when my partner and I broke up on January 3rd, I attempted suicide. She screamed at me the entire way to the hospital, saying that she "had enough shit she was dealing with and then I have to go and do something this selfish just to give her one more thing to stress about". She then left me alone in the hospital and I had to call her to come pick me up the next day (she was having lunch with the roommate and it took her over an hour to come get me).
She has, to this day, sworn that the relationship was platonic and that the PTSD was to blame for all of her inappropriate behavior. The room mate moved out in July and my ex-partner immediately started dating an ex-girlfriend of hers.
As a sidenote, I am medically disabled and unable to work, yet my ex had no qualms about kicking me to the curb. I drove in a UHaul, alone, 700 miles to live with my parents. I had 400.00 bucks in my pocket. My ex stayed in the 5-bedroom, 3-bath house (3900 square feet, worth about 180 grand) and, in SPITE of the PTSD, has maintained her relationship with her ex and managed to keep her position as a Quality Control Inspector for the Mechanics for a major airline.
My question is, had anything similar happened to anyone else here? Or did my ex just get sick of me and use PTSD as a crutch to get out? I would appreciate any and ALL feedback! Thanks so much-I hope all of you are doing well.
