Purpose

[Panda Bear]

Interesting about the hugs....an odd way to communicate a yes or no. At least in my opinion.

My T, hugs are a yes and always. I specifically asked if he would at any time remove them or take them off the table as an option. If he was going to remove them as an option later down the road....maybe as a way to separate as we get closer to termination. I told him I didn't want to start them if he was ever going to take them away.

Hugs run off and on. I ask first about 50% of the time, he offers first about 30% and 20% of the time I just don't want one.

Why can't she just say yes and leave the option up to you to ask for what you need?

 

[Snowflake]

therapy did not help me....it was more tharepist talking than me

I am sorry. :(

 

[Snowflake]

Interesting about the hugs....an odd way to communicate a yes or no. At least in my opinion.

My T,...

A part of me understands what she is saying. She knows I am very needy and get triggered easily. She is very careful of what/how she communicates because I easily shut down or start to cry. She knows now I crave a hug. That's a step closer than a few days ago. Maybe when I am more stable she will. But she knows. I try to tell myself she does a lot for me......I am her only client she sees 2x weekly. I am also the only client she calls 1x per week. So I know she cares. We did decide yesterday that I will do emdr on some trauma-and attachment -only what I am comfortable with.

 

[katz]

I'm so glad that I found this chat! I have such an odd situation with "hugs". My family never did. Even when leaving. It took my friend knowing me for over two years before I would hug her .

I'm just starting a new T. Last week was our first meeting. I think that I will ask her when I see her next week. Hmmm...