Dom Violence Pursuing charges

[dulcia]

I think it would be a good idea to change all of your accounts and get a new email address. Yes,...

Unfortunately, it's my work email at this point, which is publicly available on our website.

 

[Ronin]

And you cannot block him?

 

[dulcia]

Also you can get apps that bounce emails & texts that make it look to the sender as if you have not been contacted. You could try this.

Ah, I've never heard of this! I'll have to look into it. I had to also get an app that would automatically send any blocked numbers to voicemail. I was getting one or more of those calls a day (whether from him or telemarketers).

Just bc he is not threatening you to your face right now - doesn't mean he isn't a threat at all.

Yes, this last part is exactly what's been on my mind. I went to the court house to see about a restraining order months ago and was basically told fat chance because he's not actively making threats. And I would need notarized affidavits from people, all of whom live in a different town than me. So, after he showed up at my front door unannounced, I filled out the paperwork, but held onto it, since he still was being so "un" violent and so kindly (*eye roll*) left when I told him to....eventually. But then he sent app invites to my email (can't block them until I get them), and to my friends, so that's when I called the police and asked about harassment. They called and warned him to leave me alone, but then he reached out again through numbers/emails I don't know so they weren't blocked. I told the police again. It was assigned to a detective, and the detective is moving forward with it, which could end up leading to a warrant for his arrest. That's what had me freaking out....for some reason, in all of this, I hadn't even thought about him getting arrested. But he was warned! So my conflicted feelings are from being annoyed and nervous that he won't leave me alone when he's been asked (and told) by even the police, but also feeling bad because he does have unmanaged PTSD. But I guess it is what it is at this point.

 

[dulcia]

@Ronin, he's been using different email addresses. Or setting up accounts on apps and then requesting me through there, which sends the request via email.

 

[Ronin]

but also feeling bad because he does have unmanaged PTSD.

This bit: No need to feel bad though.
His mental health is not your responsibility. Nor an excuse for his behavior, was not then, is not now.
He has unmanaged being a predatory douchebag, that is the only thing of his unmanaged anything that are in view.

 

[dulcia]

Ha! Thanks, @Ronin :)

 

[blackemerald1]

@dulcia - un-managed PTSD does not licence him to bug you when he has been told not to do so.

PTSD is responsible for a lot of things but not intentional bad behaviour. And he is an adult male so he must know he is risking his liberty by continuing to behave badly towards you.

If he will not listen to you when you say enough and no more. And then he does not listen to the Police when they warn him to desist. He is just being very stupid - PTSD managed or un managed.

 

[Sighs]

He may not be responsible for the fact that he has PTSD but the fact that it is untreated and therefore unmanaged is on him.