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Since September, my bf (sufferer) broke up with me and right before Thanksgiving, I started to experience the isolation/blocking where he has blocked me on social media, wont take calls or respond to texts; it didn’t help that while in this ptsd episode, I sent him a very mean and nasty email. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been sending messages and emails somewhat regularly apologizing for my actions and behavior; and I’m starting to get little messages (not a lot) here and there. My point is, I’ve learned that if you don’t have a lot of patience (I mean a whole lot) and you’re not ready for sometimes having to bend over, sacrifice, endure, persevere and accept in order to support your sufferer, then being a supporter is probably gonna be too challenging. I’m not saying accept everything your sufferer brings to you; you gotta have boundaries in place, but you have to also remember that they DO NOT process things or reason the way someone without ptsd would. I personally know that my ex is a wonderful guy who happens to have ptsd and if he shows signs of trying, then I need to try as well to be there for him. I know that the break ups come with ptsd and the isolating also comes with ptsd, so I’m taking a step back and supporting the break. I know he appreciates me giving him a chance to pull it together. When I reached out to him a while back and he said,” I’m fine. I need more time; my apologies”. I knew he just needed time and for me to allow him to continue working on himself. I’ve learned so much and I’m so thankful to God and this forum for teaching me along the way.
