Relationship Pushed Away And Broken Up With

[jim700]

I was told last night that my girlfriend doesn't love me anymore. She simply cannot love me anymore. She closed me off and pushed me away because she was afraid of being hurt.

I'm devastated. She has assured me there was nothing wrong with me or our relationship. It was her. And I feel for her I really do.

She told me that after she got some space, she wants to continue to be friends with me. And I do too!!!

But I don't know how to do it. I don't know what she is feeling. She told me she is numb to me and completely indifferent. It hurts a lot. I miss her a lot already.

What do I do? How do I reach out to her again and rekindle the friendship we had when we were dating (minus the romance?) When she is ready, how do I talk to her without making her tense up or scare her away?
I want to be supportive to her, but I don't know how and she denies that I need to do anything at all.

Help please
Jim...

 

[littlelostchild]

Oh Jim, I'm so sorry. Those of us with ptsd can be very protective of ourselves. I know it is devastating. Give yourselves some time to heal and see how you want to move forward. You both will need some space from each other right now.

We tend to shut down and become numb when we are overwhelmed, so that may be what is going on with your ex. I recommend giving her the space she needs and looking after healing yourself. You can't control what she does, but you can control how you respond.

Just my two cents