Sexual Assault Rape Conviction Statistics In The Us

[Deleted member 28740]

@Hooper the personal and the data. Sorting.

Link to research study https://opsvaw.as.uky.edu/sites/default/files/07_Rape_Prosecution.pdf

 

[Hooper]

Changeling,
Question for advocates #3 hit home. I really do think my wife has handled what her boyfriend (date rapist) at the time did very well. I'm in much worse shape which is kind of pathetic. I've done what was recommended here and by her and gone to therapy. It will be 2 years on the 28th. I've made some progress but I'd have to say it's minimal. I've got to get a grip because I can't have her go backwards in her progress because of how poorly I've handled the situation. It eats at me and I try to hide it but I don't think it works real well all the time. I'll do things like record movies I enjoyed 20 years ago and have to leave the room if a rape scene I forgot about comes on or just quit watching it all together. It's beyond frustrating. I like my mother in law but going to her house sets me off. She has no clue what happened to her own daughter which honestly I would prefer to be in her camp but my wife felt I needed to know as we got more serious. I see pictures on the walls I know were taken 3 days prior. Most of the time over the past 2 years post 3 weeks of finding out the details I'm good but I relapse occasionally and quite frankly feel like a basket case. Then there is the fact my sex drive is much higher than hers. I can't turn it off but I can take no for an answer. Like I said I'm frustrated. I feel like my therapy has been a very slow work in progress. I want to move on. Thanks for the link.
later,
hooper

 

[Friday]

I'm not trying to be rude, but there is no justice for "you". Please hear me out.

Brothers, fathers, husbands, boyfriends, partners and so on are not the ones getting justice.

Speaking as someone who has both been raped, and loved people who have been raped, assaulted, killed...

I disagree.

Hurt someone I love? You hurt me. Victims don't exist in a vacuum. That doesn't mean that my desire for vengeance or justice supersedes the person's who was attacked. They have first rights on all blood debts. The rest of us who love them? Have second. Go after someone under my protection? Pay serious consequences. On top of the debt owed the person they attacked.

 

[Hooper]

I couldn't have said that better Friday.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

Hooper, your post shifted (as we do when … trigger etc.) Data stats to very personal. You are not the victim, but trying to live with rape impacts are in waves through the victim, those close to them, and how the impact ripples through their life. For me it changes over time as phases of impact surface. It was a bomb, yet not instant damage known.

 

[Herefornow]

What I have to say might sound completely redivulous but what happened with me .. long story short sending the person to jail has led to more threats from his who knows what I see my brothers family ect wishing they went about it vigilante style ... im so sorry that you are going through this as I can't understand but I see the pain in those close to me in their eyes .. for many it does help for me it's made it worse the ptsd ect... everything I regret it.. I'm so sorry you have gone through this just being there for your wife and showing your love and support is such a powerful thing ..