General Reaching Out To Others Who's Sufferers Drink Too Much

[Lauren13]

Thank you HelloMo, I know all of this is true but sometimes you just need an outsider to tell you to make it real. My husband is so great and understanding, he is the support system for me as I support my brother. My family has been through hell and I think I am finally beginning to see the light, it's a small glimmer, but it is there and that is what matters. I trust that God doesn't give us more than we can handle and I hope that one day if I ever cross paths with someone that has been in my place I can help council them through their tough times. I am just so thankful I found this site, reading other people's stories gives me comfort knowing there are other people that struggle and I, nor my family, are alone.

 

[Linzi]

Hi I'm new to this, and I know it's been a long time since anyone has replied on this thread. My partner has combat PTSD which he is getting help for. It is his drinking which really concerns me at the moment and I am falling into the trap of "if you can't beat them join them" at first it started just weekends, which to me wasn't a problem as I don't work weekends, but now it's 1 maybe 2 week nights as well.

Last night for example he came in with a pint of cider so I had a glass of wine. I knew he didn't have much cider left in his bottle so it wasn't a problem, until he went the shop and bought more. I know my limits to what I can drink, he doesn't and will continue drinking until he is very drunk. This makes me angry and it always results in an argument over drinking and then lots of other petty things.

I really don't know what to do? I know I probably shouldn't drink with him. But come a weekend I need to relax and should be able to have a few drinks after a stressful week at work. He feels a weekend is just for drinking ( and that's a weekend starting Thursday through to Sunday) he isn't working at the moment, hence why he finds it ok to drink during the week. He is on anti-depressants because of PTSD so shouldn't be drinking anyway.

Any advice would be great

Thanks

 

[amethist]

The drinking is a way for them to cope with all that is going on in their heads, and even though we know how wrong it is, they wont listen until they get to the point of rock bottom with it.

Keep your self well, by only drinking the odd glass of wine that you can enjoy with out any issues.

Have you tried not being in the same room as him when he is drinking to excess, or even saying that your home is now a drink free zone.

It wont stop him, but it will keep it out of your face.

Also have you tried expalining to him that drinking to excess with PTSD is like pouring oil on a burning fire, it will only make the symptoms worse not better.

He may listen, he may not, but you can at least try.