Relationship Reading My Posts

[Wastinglight]

Sometimes I wonder what my sufferer would think if he read all of the posts that I've put on this site. Would he be angry or offended or upset? Or pleased that I'm trying to understand and get support? Has anyone actually had that experience, and how did their sufferer react?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Opposite here, she seems to be checking my posts on here to see how I am. I am in a way relieved that she cares about me that much.

How he would react depends on his personality. No matter how tough I can look often I'm just a big cuddly bear... Maybe try talking to him about stuff similar to what you post on here, and see his reaction. By that you might be able to figure out what his reaction would be.

 

[Purplemunchkin]

Hubby used to be quite pissed off at the idea of me posting on here. He thought that since it's 'his' PTSD I had no business discussing it with anyone, let alone strangers on the internet.

Then I heard him on the 'phone talking to his parents about some of my personal stuff, which allowed me to open up a conversation.

He decided he would prefer me to go on here than talk to 'real' people that he might have face.

 

[Glara]

I think about that too. He would know it's me talking about him. It's anonymous so I don't think he'd mind it in that respect, and I think he'd be happy to know I care enough to learn about it. My concern is that he'd get more stressed when he realizes how hurt or upset I get. I try to think about what I should say when I am upset with him. I try to use language that isn't accusatory and I try to choose my words very carefully. I never want him to know when I'm feeling really hurt or insecure, for fear that he'd feel worse and push me away. At least I believe he would.

 

[ARH10]

I've asked him before if he wanted to read them and he was upset I was "sharing our business". He didn't see why I need the support. I wish he would read them. The change in my posts over time was interesting for me to read and think would put things into perspective for him. Maybe one day...

 

[Wastinglight]

Thanks all. I guess because I often come on this forum to do my freaking out, some of the things I've written might seem a bit harsh. But if he ever did see these posts and feel upset, I guess I would just say to him that I have a lot of healing to do from the past as well, and talking it out helps me to deals with my issues before they become a problem in our relationship.