General Ready For The Fall Out

[amethist]

This could be one of the worst weeks we have had for a while. I am trying to prepare myself for all eventualities, hoping that it wont be as bad as what I am anticipating. The signs don't look good so far though.

Hubby has already started to shut down and go into his own kind of isolation, struggling to deal with what is going on just now, but also knowing it has to be done.

His mind is bringing everything forward just now, as he said like the door opening for one thought to be let out and all the others rushing through the gap.

He knows his dad his ill, but so far I have not told him what is suspected by the specialists, I am trying to filter and trickle the info to him as and when it is necessary at the moment.

On Tuesday he has a guy coming to see him about how his PTSD has and still does effect him, ready for the final court proceedings, if it gets that far. Hopefully the other party will back down before it gets that far, as they seem to have done on each step they have argued with so far.

He is going to struggle with this, but he wants it done and out of the way, so he can then cope with what ever happens to his dad.

So for now all I can do is let him deal with this in which ever way he has to, being there to pick him up, support him, let him sleep, anything he needs to get through this next week for now.

Not going to call anyone for help in a professional sense, as I have learnt in the past, it is never there when you need it.

We have managed the last 4 years with very little help, so why expect it to appear now.

Amethist

 

[Tessa]

Sending caring thoughts to you as you face this situation. Thankyou for being such a great carer.
Hugs

 

[Tinyflame]

Amethist, I'm so sorry- so much stress for you both.

He is so lucky/ blessed to have someone like you who understands.

I bet most of all he also feels regret it puts you through what it does. :(
Well, no, most of all he probably sees it as incredible, too, that you do understand.

I'll send all my good thoughts to you to get through it, that he'll get back on his feet.
-xox

 

[lostinlife]

Prayers for you in this difficult time.

 

[KP the nut]

(((Amethist))) you are amazing how you care and watch out for him. You are lucky to have one another.

A word of caution though, remember your needs as well. Chores will always be waiting but it doesn't matter when (or if) they are done. Rest and pamper yourself as and when you can, for your sake and his.

Linking arms
KP

 

[Tinyflame]

Having just had a major meltdown myself in the past few weeks, I have to gree with KP- consider what you need as Top Priorities for now for you both to get and stay healthy.
Big Hugs-

 

[amethist]

Thanks you all for your thought and replies.

It will be 4 years tomorrow since hubby's accident, and to be honest I have not seen him struggle so much as he has done today. Dropping one of his morning meds means now his mind is clear and he can think and feel what is going on, also learning to manage a bit better using the tools his T taught him all those months ago.

He has been in and out of bed all day trying to focus on bits and pieces, but not really managed more than an hour at a time, before having to go back to bed. By 7 pm tonight he had managed to lock all the demons behind the door again, herding each one back as it tried to run free (his words of how he does it).

I did have a quiet day, doing things for myself as much as I could. Choosing what I watched on TV was one of the perks though. Tomorrow I am going out for a few hours, I need a bit of a break and have to buy some thing's that I want, including a new nail polish. ;)

My daughter called too, checking I was OK and letting me know to ring if I needed anything, also insisting I ring, even if it is in the middle of the night.

So now we see what tomorrow brings.

 

[ISupportHer]

Of course I see good and bad. The good is the support you see here, the fact that your daughter has awareness and called to check on you.

(((HUGS)))

And hopes of a day without demons tomorrow.

ISH

 

[KP the nut]

Amethist, I am thinking of both you and Hubby today.

Enjoy your new nail polish, for me it would be lipstick :D or a handbag or both :roflmao:

 

[Srain]

Amethist,

My thoughts are with you both. It takes great patience and love, you have both in bunches, thank you so much for that as I feel it here all the time.

peace,
Rain

 

[amethist]

No demons so far today, though both of us are very tired.

I did go shopping and bought 2 nail polishes :D. As well as cat food, bird seed, wool for grandchildren's school jumpers, and a new trolley coin for hubby's key ring. His does not work and you can guarantee if he comes with me, and take his keys. I wont have a coin to fit the trolley's. :rolleyes:

 

[Nicolette]

Damn... I just posted a reply and the post has vanished into Cyber space.