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Sweethellishlove
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What's a trauma specialist do they just diagnose you for more then PTSD or just that?
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Really Stressed About My Therapy
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Sweethellishlove
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Going to even see if a trauma specialist is in my network. Hopefully so would be nice if someone could be like "this is what's wrong with you." I've been told i had mild depression, to major depression, to bi polar, to borderline, to PTSD, to omg your just f*cking crazy. (the last one is my diagnoses.)
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Make sure that your therapist actually will work with you when you decide to do this homework. Like @franciemarnie said: Don't do it if you were not ready. Don't push yourself too hard on this and the reason why I said this statement - I'm not here to try scare you but.. I did that once with my old therapist and I wept so hard when I hand in the homework.
However, it didn't happened because my old T just put it in file and never bring it up on next session. I was angry about it and that was years ago. My current therapist - Asked me to write letter to certain people and I did then my therapist had me to tell my T about what I wrote.
Your T may ask you to speak it or read it.
I have thought about try again with the original letter that I wrote that my old T had but I am too scared to do it because it was too deep. Unfortunately, I could not remember much today.
If you feel overwhelm and could not continue any further, stop. If your next session is approach closer and you couldn't complete, remind yourself that it is okay and let your T know that you tried.
If you need someone to chat, I'm here.
Make sure that your therapist actually will work with you when you decide to do this homework. Like @franciemarnie said: Don't do it if you were not ready. Don't push yourself too hard on this and the reason why I said this statement - I'm not here to try scare you but.. I did that once with my old therapist and I wept so hard when I hand in the homework.
However, it didn't happened because my old T just put it in file and never bring it up on next session. I was angry about it and that was years ago. My current therapist - Asked me to write letter to certain people and I did then my therapist had me to tell my T about what I wrote.
Your T may ask you to speak it or read it.
I have thought about try again with the original letter that I wrote that my old T had but I am too scared to do it because it was too deep. Unfortunately, I could not remember much today.
If you feel overwhelm and could not continue any further, stop. If your next session is approach closer and you couldn't complete, remind yourself that it is okay and let your T know that you tried.
If you need someone to chat, I'm here.
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Sweethellishlove
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Thanks pure, I think the hardest part for me is she wants me to read my trauma every day until I go see her next. So every day I am supposed to relive in...for the next f*cking 7 days. Day 1 I already hit myself hyper ventillated and was sobbing non-stop for like 2 hours. I can't go the next 6 days like this.
I wrote a lot of what happened, I kept stopping though and it just go to the point where I'm like if I keep writing I'm going to grab something and either beat the shit out of myself or cut myself. I hadn't self harmed in so long, but as soon as I started seeing this therapist the self harm is starting to slowly happen again.
I wrote a lot of what happened, I kept stopping though and it just go to the point where I'm like if I keep writing I'm going to grab something and either beat the shit out of myself or cut myself. I hadn't self harmed in so long, but as soon as I started seeing this therapist the self harm is starting to slowly happen again.
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franciemarnie
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Well you were saying you weren't sure what you had, if you had PTSD, that you'd been diagnosed with several things.
If you find a therapist who specialize in treating trauma, you could find out if they think you have PTSD and, if so, they could explain why they think you do.
It helps immensely to know what you have and understand why the diagnosis has been made. If it is PTSD, you can learn more about how it effects the brain and all sorts of things so you won't think you're just vaguely nuts. You can make a plan for healing based on certain knowledge.
If you find a therapist who specialize in treating trauma, you could find out if they think you have PTSD and, if so, they could explain why they think you do.
It helps immensely to know what you have and understand why the diagnosis has been made. If it is PTSD, you can learn more about how it effects the brain and all sorts of things so you won't think you're just vaguely nuts. You can make a plan for healing based on certain knowledge.
Wow- I am really sorry. Good for you for listening to your gut.
I have been with my T for 9 months and she is just now pushing me to talk about details of the sexual abuse. I don't want to and it freaks me out. But I know we are at a point I have to do it. Yes all the homework she gave always made me feel worse. However my T and I worked on coping skills. That said I will sometimes go back to old ones. :-(
I have been with my T for 9 months and she is just now pushing me to talk about details of the sexual abuse. I don't want to and it freaks me out. But I know we are at a point I have to do it. Yes all the homework she gave always made me feel worse. However my T and I worked on coping skills. That said I will sometimes go back to old ones. :-(
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No, no, a thousand times NO! (Said regarding your therapists methods.)
The goal of therapy and processing is to NOT relive the trauma. Yes, it needs to be discussed and processed, but when done properly, the reliving can be kept to a bare minimum.
I think I would run away simply because she is treating you based on something she appears to have no training in as she downloaded it off the Internet....! (Are you in Australia as well?)
The goal of therapy and processing is to NOT relive the trauma. Yes, it needs to be discussed and processed, but when done properly, the reliving can be kept to a bare minimum.
I think I would run away simply because she is treating you based on something she appears to have no training in as she downloaded it off the Internet....! (Are you in Australia as well?)
I noticed you said you were pregnant, stress is never good while pregnant. Maybe you need to have an honest conversation with her about what you need at this time.
Do you trust her, I certainly would find it hard to be with someone who is not hearing me. Trauma work isn't easy so you need someone who makes you feel supported and safe.
Do you trust her, I certainly would find it hard to be with someone who is not hearing me. Trauma work isn't easy so you need someone who makes you feel supported and safe.
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@Sweethellishlove , dump her. I'd guess she is following someone's idea of an exposure therapy protocol - but it sounds totally irresponsible of her and trauma work is pretty clearly not her specialty.
It's normal to need to go through a number of them before you find one you click with. Just keep trying til it feels like the right person. Usually you can do a phone consult so you can interview them, basically, for free without getting insurance involved.
It's normal to need to go through a number of them before you find one you click with. Just keep trying til it feels like the right person. Usually you can do a phone consult so you can interview them, basically, for free without getting insurance involved.
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oh my gosh. Your therapists method of treating trauma almost completely freaks me out just imagining it, and I'm not going through it! I would totally be decompensating like you are. She may mean well, but it doesn't sound like her specialty.
I've seen a couple of therapists who specialize in trauma. The first was totally the wrong fit for me. Wrong personality and wrong type of therapy. The second trauma specialist did trauma focused CBT and the one I am going to now does somatic experiencing and other trauma therapies. With both of those therapists, LOTS of work is done on coping skills and reducing or ending self injuring before initiating digging deep into trauma. My therapist now checks how I am coping every single week, even if I don't want to check in with how I am coping.
I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope you do find a trauma specialist!
I've seen a couple of therapists who specialize in trauma. The first was totally the wrong fit for me. Wrong personality and wrong type of therapy. The second trauma specialist did trauma focused CBT and the one I am going to now does somatic experiencing and other trauma therapies. With both of those therapists, LOTS of work is done on coping skills and reducing or ending self injuring before initiating digging deep into trauma. My therapist now checks how I am coping every single week, even if I don't want to check in with how I am coping.
I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope you do find a trauma specialist!
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Sweethellishlove
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Yeah I'm going to call today. I just feel like she's going to pressure me though and I really hate pressure. I haven't built enough trust with her yet and it just shocks me that she wants me to do all of this after 4 sessions when I told her specifically that I never talked about my child hood abuse.
The rape, I talked about a lot the child hood abuse is locked up in my head and I honestly just want to forget about it. My husband told me I need to find someone else because I had a really really super bad break down last night and he said ever since I started seeing her I've gotten 100 times worse. Is that normal?
I mean do you get really really super bad before getting good again?
The rape, I talked about a lot the child hood abuse is locked up in my head and I honestly just want to forget about it. My husband told me I need to find someone else because I had a really really super bad break down last night and he said ever since I started seeing her I've gotten 100 times worse. Is that normal?
I mean do you get really really super bad before getting good again?
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