ButterflyBean
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Hi everyone,
I’m really struggling with some things related to my disability right now, both with school and from a medical standpoint. Therefore, right now, my therapy needs to focus on getting and receiving emotional support from my T rather than addressing cognitive distortions, reducing anxiety, coping techniques, etc. All of which are necessary to deal with my current circumstances effectively; however, I feel as though I receive my only emotional support inside the therapy room at the moment. I am very good at dealing with the intellectual and logical side of things, so my sessions need to focus on the supportive side. A good part of that involves providing reassurance to my little one, from others, not necessarily myself just yet. Most of which comes from my T right now because I need the reassurance to be emotional in nature. To make things more complicated, my EMDR T and I, who is in addition to my main T, are working through a recent therapeutic rupture, that I don’t have the time, energy, or cognitive resources to repair right now, but I need to use EMDR as a tool to help me cope with the nature of my circumstances, so that aspect of the situation is truly a double edged sword.
Anyway, below is a list of phrases I gave to my T last summer in an effort to provide her with things that might be reassuring, but I still have difficulty realizing and accepting that I deserve to be cared about etc. I am wondering if anyone else has anything to add to the list that has been helpful?
I’m really struggling with some things related to my disability right now, both with school and from a medical standpoint. Therefore, right now, my therapy needs to focus on getting and receiving emotional support from my T rather than addressing cognitive distortions, reducing anxiety, coping techniques, etc. All of which are necessary to deal with my current circumstances effectively; however, I feel as though I receive my only emotional support inside the therapy room at the moment. I am very good at dealing with the intellectual and logical side of things, so my sessions need to focus on the supportive side. A good part of that involves providing reassurance to my little one, from others, not necessarily myself just yet. Most of which comes from my T right now because I need the reassurance to be emotional in nature. To make things more complicated, my EMDR T and I, who is in addition to my main T, are working through a recent therapeutic rupture, that I don’t have the time, energy, or cognitive resources to repair right now, but I need to use EMDR as a tool to help me cope with the nature of my circumstances, so that aspect of the situation is truly a double edged sword.
Anyway, below is a list of phrases I gave to my T last summer in an effort to provide her with things that might be reassuring, but I still have difficulty realizing and accepting that I deserve to be cared about etc. I am wondering if anyone else has anything to add to the list that has been helpful?
- I’m here for/with you
- You’re not alone
- You’re not in trouble
- I’m not going anywhere (leaving you)
- You can/it’s okay to cry... (fill in the blank)
- You didn’t do anything wrong
- It’s okay to have your feelings
- Do you need a hug/to hold my hand?
- I’m not angry/frustrated with you
- You are important/you matter
- I’m not judging you
- You’re safe here/with me
- You don’t have to pretend
- You can let it out
- I’m right here
- Nothing is your fault
- Your feelings are real, valid, and a part of who you are
- You can trust me
