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[DLMURL="https://www.myptsd.com/c/articles/recovery.26/"]Recovery[/DLMURL] - What is the difference between a cure and recovering from PTSD.

Often the most obvious answer may not be so obvious to all seeking said answer. So what is the question that eludes the obvious answer, you're now asking yourself?

If Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is incurable, can I fully recover to live a normal life?

Curable vs. Treatable

By definition, curable means the disease can be completely eliminated, versus treatable, which means only the symptoms can be relieved. So... can you live a normal life with relieved symptoms? The answer...

[DLMURL="https://www.myptsd.com/c/articles/recovery.26/"]Read more about this article...[/DLMURL]
 
I know this is going to sound strange but... I was just wondering about the "Some may become gay as they find comfort and security in being with a female as they cannot trust being sexual with a male again." Ummm "become gay" makes sexuality seem like a choice. I'm not sure if it is. Maybe "more likely to be" instead of "become"? I don't know. Feel free to un-confuse me.
 
A valid question Jen... and word choice is accurate IMO.

Sexuality is actually a choice for many. Some it's not, some it is. There are plenty of people who choose to be bi-sexual, for example, because they like the intimacy of both sexes, yet they can also live with one or the another alone by choice.

You could say that some people may be likely to change sides. But then some make a definitive choice to change sides due to abuse. They become gay by choice, and I could add that this would be, nearly exclusively, females.

In the Army a lot of women become gay once enlisted. They don't change teams by joining the Army, they change teams after being used and abuse by the males (majority) time and again, so they switch to being sexual only with women. Many even change back upon leaving the Army or remain bi-sexual. They do it because they want sex, they want intimacy, but they can't take the emotional impact from guy after guy taking interest in them, then dumping them. Females just aren't wired for that... and in itself you could say women in the military become traumatised by males doing this to them. When they get into a gay relationship, they become partnered typically with the other and remain in a relationship suddenly, without the abusive impact that guys put upon them by basically only wanting sex and then discarding them, if not bragging about the conquest to all their buddies. In those situations it is very click oriented. That is just an example, but a factual one based on what I have viewed and asked women in the military who went this route.

Whilst you could argue they are bi-sexual, bi-sexual typically refers to a person who isn't committed to either sex and will sleep with either, or they're oriented to one sex more than the other, but can't live without having the other at times.

When you talk about a female who is hetrosexual, has no interest in females for sex, gets raped by a male, then chooses to be in only female female relationships... they become gay due to abuse because they simply can't trust another male, or can't handle to be touch in that way by a male again. Call it a coping mechanism if you want... but it happens a lot with females who are abused. Just like it happens a lot with females who enter the military as hetrosexuals and then become gay. They don't become bi-sexual, because at that time they can't stand the other sex at all. This is also why some make a choice to give-up sex altogether as they don't want to be touched period, regardless of sexuality.

To me, saying more likely to be broadens the umbrella to all, where in fact it is only some who choose to do it. I haven't heard of a male making that choice who was raped by a female, I've only heard of it from lots of females who were raped by males and chose to become gay. Some indefinitely, some do it for periods in their life, then go back to being hetrosexual again as they don't want or need the other sex further.
 
Thank you for this article Anthony. I think it will help many people understand PTSD better.

The whole confusion around the word "incurable" seems to be a common reason people become hopeless or use it as a reason not to get or engage in treatment.

This should help.
 
Sexuality is actually a choice for many. Some it's not, some it is.

I completely don't see it as a choice.

There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors. Many think that nature and nurture both play complex roles; most people experience little or no sense of choice about their sexual orientation.

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But, of course that it is possible and debatable.

I've only heard of it from lots of females who were raped by males and chose to become gay.

For me I was attracted to a female when I was a child, then had sexual abuse years later. I am now married to a man but I do think my history of sexual abuse played a role becasue in order for me to heal I had to look at my own sexuality. I had to reconnect with what I felt was scary and invasive. I think without me exploring it, I wouldn't have been so understanding of myself.

Whilst you could argue they are bi-sexual, bi-sexual typically refers to a person who isn't committed to either sex and will sleep with either, or they're oriented to one sex more than the other, but can't live without having the other at times.

I think I understand what you mean. It does hurt sometimes becasue there is a longing to be with a woman which I feel will be much different then being with a man.
 
As I said... some it is, some it isn't. There are a lot of people who choose to explore their sexuality, though are still either gay or hetrosexual or bi-sexual by orientation. I concur with the science, that there is no consensus and more so, there is no one reason.

This topic is about recovery though, not sexuality.
 
[DLMURL]http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/addiction-in-society/201310/captain-phillips-says-he-doesnt-have-ptsd[/DLMURL]

I wonder what people think of this.
 
Those fine and subtle distinctions are always good to have worked out. I will have to read this a few times before I get it.

But it is helpful to know that management of your PTSD offers so much hope.
 
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