Relationships after abuse.

[FlyingHigh]

Does anyone else find that when they've had an abusive relationship and / or upbringing that getting into a relationship with a non abusive partner is depressing?

Sometimes I dont know why I get depressed about it, maybe its that I dont feel worthy or I feel overwhelmed or I just dont know how it feels to be treated good.

I have been abused since I was 2 years old so abuse is pretty much all I have known. Why am I struggling to adjust to an non abusive relationship? Does anyone else have this issue or is it just me? Its like I almost expect to be treated badly and when it doesn't happen, I almost expect it to happen. I feel like I am just antipating abuse and violence.

 

[EveHarrington]

I anticipate being treated badly as well. It comes out in the oddest ways. I am definitely not bored in my current relationship as my guy is pretty intense without being abusive (so it's not that I crave that kind of chaos).